My Boyfriend's Fraternity Hates My Sorority

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I think that was everyone's point here. Her boyfriend wasn't a jerk until he told the OP her sorority was less than his in the manner that he did. A gentleman may have said, "I'd love for my fraternity to hang out with your sorority, but I just don't see it happening because of what occurred in the past. Sorry. But you're more than welcome to invite some sisters to our parties." Instead, he sounded like an immature, stuck up a-hole. It had more to do with how he spoke to her and the fact that he didn't seem to care whether or not he hurt hurt her feelings.

When I first joined my sorority, I was hanging out with fraternity ABC more than any other, but a lot of our sisters were dating members of XYZ (and 4 of them are now married to those brothers). We mixed with them a lot, and our sweetheart was an XYZ. I didn't care. On Friday nights, I would go to ABC and a lot of my sisters would go to XYZ. No big deal.

You can't force something that neither chapter wants.

You are typing about Greek stuff. I encourage the OP to get over the Greek stuff and see whether he is an overall asshole.

"Gentleman" is extremely subjective. Adding extra words or even a soft voice and smile does not change the point being made. It also doesn't make him a gentleman. This is all based on the OP's wording of what she claims he said.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You are typing about Greek stuff. I encourage the OP to get over the Greek stuff and see whether he is an overall asshole.

Again, I think was everyone's point.

"Gentleman" is extremely subjective. Adding extra words or even a soft voice and smile does not change the point being made. It also doesn't make him a gentleman. This is all based on the OP's wording of what she claims he said.

Exactly. Remember, all we can analyze is what's been presented to us

And there's a big difference between saying, "Sorry, stuff happened a while ago and there's nothing I can do about it," and "My chapter is better than yours."

The OP can do what she wants. Perhaps he's a perfect guy in every other way, but she doesn't make it sound that way. I find that when people complain about one thing regarding their significant other to strangers online, there are much deeper issues there. Just my experience.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Again, I think was everyone's point.

Based on Greek stuff.

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

And there's a big difference between saying, "Sorry, stuff happened a while ago and there's nothing I can do about it," and "My chapter is better than yours."

I see the former as bullshit and the latter as to the point.