Need Advice :)

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by epchick

There are ways to speak to parents without making it seem like you are placing the blame on them. Srmom SHOULD speak to this girl's parents. I agree with how AGDee suggests handling the situation.

No matter how it is said, there are too many variable to NOT know what the outcome will be. First you don't know if that girl's parents are just a sick and twisted or worse... So how it going to look to speak to the parents about anything?

Originally Posted by epchick

The school police will not do anything because none of these things happen on campus, it is happening at srmom's house.

Actually, there is precendent in various school districts, in regards to school violence. These kinds of things can escalate. That is why the police and admins have been trained and have licenses and certificates...

Originally Posted by epchick

I don't think the parents will think anything is wrong based on her text messages. They could still be under the impression that their daughter and srmom's son are still dating, which is why she is texting him so much. I text a lot, and my parents wouldn't think anything was wrong based on the # of texts, especially since most people have that "unlimited" text messaging plan.

It is the sheer number of them that most people will look at and the timing. When my child is asleep at my house, WTF are there 30 odd texts at 2-3 AM, saying "where R U", "Call me", "I miss U", "I H8 U"--Bizzarro texts?

I don't care how much the other family thinks they are dating, the fact is, you don't text endlessly at 2-3 AM even if you are married... There is a limit to that being loving vs. overwhelming. The other issue, is the boy could have led her on for her to live in make believe. We are only hearing one side of the story, so who knows? I am in no way condoning or rationalizing her behavior, but you just don't mess around with someone like that and think you, your property, and your animals are safe...

It's like y'all missed that movie "Fatal Attraction"...

This girl apparently does not understand the point of restraint and composure. Why? Who knows? But unless you are a trained and licensed professional, then why do you need to ascertain that fact?