Need Advice :)

[AKA_Monet]

Firstly, I to be blunt, the parents have to know something wrong with their daughter... If they don't, then what gives you the right to tell them their child is acting out? Parents don't want to hear about bad things about their child, period! And you can show them all the evidence in the world, but since you are not a licensed trained provider or law enforcement, then you have ZERO to say to them. Your recourse is with your local law enforcement and a restraining order.

The fact is, what if the girl's parents are in so much denial that they accuse your son of some silliness (i.e. he "raped" her, etc., etc.)? How's that going to look after you just had those fools over at your house with soda/coffee/cookies, etc. to talk about the inappropriate lasciviousness of their child? Think about what the police investigators' perspective? It looks like CYAing... EFF that chance! Protect yourself and your family at ALL times! It ain't about being nice-nice and neighborly, it is about protecting your son, period. And ain't nobody going to do that for him, but you and your husband... Yeah, he's young, but he is dealing with someone who needs help, he too young to handle this lunacy. It takes someone licensed and trained to do that...

I would not even give a head's up... Let the Marshall's do that... (or whoever)... Because if she did this silliness to your son, believe me, he ain't the first!!! Secondly, I question what is going on in this household for the parents not to be apologetic about their child's behavior? THAT behavior suggest to me that something wholly inappropriate is going on in that household... Seriously...

If you want to help this young lady, make her be forced to get help by "the system" and make her parents find the help she needs. That's what you pay taxes for... Seriously...

Look, if you ever been accused of a crime, you just learn these facts the hard way... Get your documents in order with a long paper trail. If you can get the text messages, facebook, myspace, whatever she is saying or doing that is loopy, get that together. Lock up all his accounts on those social networks. And hayle, you can use my message to you here as proof on GC. You don't know what this young lady is capable of doing until she is handled by law enforcement...

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Firstly, I to be blunt, the parents have to know something wrong with their daughter... If they don't, then what gives you the right to tell them their child is acting out?

You know what gives her the right? He is her son. She is protecting her child. Said female is showing up at their house univited and letting herself in...that gives her the right to intervene. He is not an adult, he is a 16 year old BOY. Contacting the parents at this point is a courtesy before going to the police.

Some parents are completely oblivious to their childrens problems. I see this daily in my job. Maybe they work a lot, maybe they just don't care, but srmom is doing the courteous thing before contacting the authorities. There is nothing wrong with that.