Need Advice :)

[PM_Mama00]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Is this your choice of engaging talks with me? Please let me know when you have anything relevant to add to this discussion with me... Thanks.

You seem to be trying to come across as a professional in this field. If you're telling us that you're a professional, then speak (write) professional, otherwise it's very hard to take you seriously when you are using the words "po po".

I've been in a situation similar to this though not as extreme. Going to her parents is way better, this way if they have the open heart to listen to what you're saying, they can get her help. Going to the police is just going to cause a scene and rumors and ultimately embarrass this girl more than doing good. Embarrassing her could have worse repercussions (sp?) on her own health than a hearty talking to from her parents. If nothing works with that, then go about getting a restraining order.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

You seem to be trying to come across as a professional in this field. If you're telling us that you're a professional, then speak (write) professional, otherwise it's very hard to take you seriously when you are using the words "po po".

I've been in a situation similar to this though not as extreme. Going to her parents is way better, this way if they have the open heart to listen to what you're saying, they can get her help. Going to the police is just going to cause a scene and rumors and ultimately embarrass this girl more than doing good. Embarrassing her could have worse repercussions (sp?) on her own health than a hearty talking to from her parents. If nothing works with that, then go about getting a restraining order.

Agreed...

Monet

I stand with the rest on this...take it in steps...go to the parents first...document what happens...if that doesn't work...then get the law involved...obviously the child needs help and u never know...the parents may be ignoring the signs...

plus another idea...a lil out there...if you want to ensure that the parents are safe, an idea is probably go to the girl's school and have conference with the principal and parents of the girl.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

You seem to be trying to come across as a professional in this field. If you're telling us that you're a professional, then speak (write) professional, otherwise it's very hard to take you seriously when you are using the words "po po".

I've been in a situation similar to this though not as extreme. Going to her parents is way better, this way if they have the open heart to listen to what you're saying, they can get her help. Going to the police is just going to cause a scene and rumors and ultimately embarrass this girl more than doing good. Embarrassing her could have worse repercussions (sp?) on her own health than a hearty talking to from her parents. If nothing works with that, then go about getting a restraining order.

I suspect you are choosing engagement. I say what I am as I am. So stop the assumptions. It benefits me NOT to misrepresent myself.

Ask me a direct question. Here's a freebie: Why am so adamant about this issue?

Let me put it bluntly, from the sidewalk and street, to my front door is my private domain I share with whom I choose...

NO ONE has the right to be present in that domain that I do not know about or freely chose to invite into my domicile.

After a LOONNNGGG day of work, I am attempting to de-stress and collect myself to do my next duties for the evening, i.e. fixing dinner, checking on my childrens' day/homework, exercise at the gym, crafts, phone calls to my friends, visiting GC, making sure my husband is happy...

With that said, I DO NOT EXPECT TO SEE A DISHEVELED, CRYING, UPSET, EXTREMELY EMACIATED TEEN GIRL CRYING TO ME ABOUT MY SON!!!

But it has happened. Now, I can CHOOSE to speak to the parents, which you all think is the "RIGHT" or "NOBLE" thing to do... I disagree with that tactic. Forget neighborly, forget not adding too much too it. I want this silliness to stop, if not immediately, and all I can think about is allieviating the pain on my child.


AND WHEN THAT GIRL SHOWED UP ON MY DOORSTEP, THAT SHIT GOT REAL IN MY LIFE!! SO NOW I AM INVOLVED AND SHE IS INVADING MY SPACE--THAT MEANS, I CALL THE COPS!!!

That is the way I see it. I can accept other see it differently, that's fine. But the personal attacks toward me is and questioning my integrity is unfair, discriminatory and hateful!

This is my last post in this thread, so you do not have to worry anymore about my opinions.