living together before marriage: opinions?

[whittleschmegg]

I feel alot of times the best way to approach the situation is life cicumstance. If you both graduate college and get jobs in the same town but can't move in with family it might be a good idea to move in together. Or your planning to get married and want to save money for the wedding. This way you are living with eachother for personal growth not to make or break the relationship and not because you feel it is a necessary step.

However, I agree that moving in together because you want your relationship to go to the next step is not the answer. After you move in together whats next? Marriage, why not wait the few months, this puts unneeded pressure on the relationship to get married. MysticCat made the point that statistics show that people who move in together are more likely to get diviorced. I think the reason this is so true is that after moving in with someone; people feel the pressure to get engaged and get married even though it might not be the right time or right thing for them to do.