Is sex really that big of a deal?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by interestladiLTA

I have decided to wait until I am married to have sex. I have dated guys with very strong sex drives. One guy in particular tried to force me to have sex. Now that I have found someone I can see myself with forever I struggle with keeping my promise to myself and just being sexually frustrated or give into my desires and put my self at risks for a broken heart and/or or the other risks that come with sex...

Look, the scientists don't have the answers to protect your broken heart after sex.

IMO, sexual emotion should be in the realm of a Spiritual Trek or Fancy.

You NEVER know what you might enjoy sexually. Maybe you are into a "ball gag" and dominion. Maybe you are into a bear rug by the fire. Either way, gag or fire, you still have to protect yourself for the responsibilities of emotions after sex. That's why if done properly, it doesn't hurt... Not this it'll get better with more practice...

Erections just are physically impossible beyond 3 hours unless the man downs all his Vitamin V's and Cialis' in the outdoor bathtubs. Once sex is done that's your experience. You want to make the most of it especially if you are multi-orgasmic. Now, if the dude has multiples, that's different, but one erection for 3 hours... I'm sorry. Something's wrong with him... Most of the time is ~5-30 minutes at the longest... That's your time frame to get your groove...

And anyone forcing anything sexual is called rape...

And there are some women here that have suffered unspeakable sex crimes, from child abuse to rape.

If that is going on, you need to see a professional therapist and get your mind straight before any relationship with a qualified professional healthcare professional. The National Association of Mental Illness, Planned Parenthood, and several other groups exist to assist women who have been attacked and abused. Also, I think Honeychile is a crisis counselor. There are others on GC.

One avenue is the thought process of the Tantra. Others have found support in Buddhist practices.

But what you do not want is to be struggling out there along with no one but that fool that abused you.

If you have very serious issues, PM me and we find assistance.

Dr. AKA_Monet
Chief of GC Hospital