Some of it depends on how much you think you had to do with her not getting a bid.
If you brought a lot of the chapter to the point of view that this girl shouldn't be allowed to join, and you did it for primarily personal reasons/feelings, I can see why you would want to excercise some damage control. Because I can only imagine someone wanting to go postal if it were a personal problem.
In that case I would pre-empt the whole situation and have someone with good social skills go talk to her and tell/lie saying it wasn't anything personal. Explain that there is just a limited number of slots open and sometimes things work out in sucky ways. But you think she is cool, pretty, worthy, whatever.
There is no good way to reject someone, but you can offer them face saving comments if they want/need to hold onto them.
If you are just looking for some general blanket statement to out into a booklet or whatever:
"Membership Selection is a competitive process with limited spaces available, and that can result in highly desirable candidates remaining bidless, sometimes despite the wishes of the candidate or the sorority.
And due to the private nature of Membership Selection, sorority members are not in any way permitted to discuss the process."
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