He, she or it? Family keeps baby's gender a secret

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Uhhhhh...this isn't really an issue of "strong parenting." The average parent thinks "strong parenting" means putting boys in blue and girls in pink; and discouraging any hint of defying gender. The average parent thinks "strong parenting" means teaching heterosexuality and discouraging homosexuality.

Most of these "strong parents" also conveniently use God to support why this is how things are supposed to be. This evening, a "strong parent" who I love with all of my heart talked to me about transgenderism and used the Bible's "...and God created Adam and Eve" to seal the deal.

God + strong parenting = ?????????

Of course it wasn't, you made the choice to include as part of the issue. I only made that comment as an aside to overall parenthood. Not a referendum on these particular parents.

Yeah and the family in this article consider themselves doing just that and probably consider themselves "strong parents." They may also consider themselves to be "Godly."

See above.

I think I need to use God's name more often. It's like a four letter word sometimes in these forums.

You see this the exact opposite of how I see it. The way the average parent does it removes choice from the child. Children do not choose to be given pink baby stuff upon delivery and go home to a "girly nursery." People who have been gender socialized choose this for children. We don't know what children would choose if it is completely up to them from start to finish.

And since children have no real ability to choose anything, I see nothing wrong (as long as it is done sanely) with these parents choosing to go this route for their children just as other parents choose to go the gendered route for their children.

It's one thing to dress your child a certain way, that is fine. The parents should be able to request that just because my child was born a boy does not mean you have to buy blue or pink.

And this is where we differ, because the child has no choice, saying you are not gonna even tell your child's grandparents just to make a point is rather silly. But hey we all can see two sides of an argument. Doesn't mean neither one of us are wrong.