Going to a sorority with a boyfriend...

flower33 · #1 10-02-2006, 11:33 AM

Hey everyone I am a new number at a sorority and was just wondering how other girls end up after they join a sorority while having a boyfriend. I have been going out with him for about three years now and trust has never been an issue between us. I did recently bring up the talk about taking a break just because I did not want to always go out and have to worry about him worrying about me with other guys. All in all just wanted to know how many girls end up staying with their boyfriends, or end up splitting up after getting settled down at a sorority. thanks

AlphaFrog · #2 10-02-2006, 11:38 AM

I would doubt that the % of girls who stay with their HS sweetheart is any different for those in a sorority, as opposed to those who choose not to go Greek. My HS sweetheart and I were dating when I joined my sorority, but we ended up breaking up the semester after my chapter closed, so it had nothing to do with the sorority.

Drolefille · #3 10-02-2006, 12:57 PM

I stayed with my HS sweetheart throughout college (we did break up and get back together a few times, but this was due to distance and lack of cars, not my GLO). I was however one of only 2 girls that I knew to do so. Boyfriends don't always last, but I doubt it would be the sorority that would be the cause. If anything, they're usually there to provide ice cream and girl movies and general all around "therapy" for a broken heart.

James · #4 10-02-2006, 10:11 PM

You wanted to take a break so that you wouldn't have to worry about him worrying about you going out with other guys?

Nice.

I guess freeing yourself from committment so you can meet other guys would make him worry about it less lol.

Do women really think this way? Is your gender somewhat less than sane?

Do people break up more that join Greek organizations? Probably. You get to meet more people, you get more options, a lot of people just stay together because no one obviously better came along.

So whether you go or stay will depend on how attached to your current BF you are versus how interesting the new boys are.

Sounds like you are looking though, or at least staying open to possible new opportunities. So just string him along a little longer. There is no nice way to break up. So if you meet someone you can leave him, and if you're looking doesn't reveal anyone obviously better, you can just stay with him.

KAY10 · #5 10-07-2006, 02:55 AM

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Originally Posted by flower33

Hey everyone I am a new number at a sorority and was just wondering how other girls end up after they join a sorority while having a boyfriend. I have been going out with him for about three years now and trust has never been an issue between us. I did recently bring up the talk about taking a break just because I did not want to always go out and have to worry about him worrying about me with other guys. All in all just wanted to know how many girls end up staying with their boyfriends, or end up splitting up after getting settled down at a sorority. thanks

If he's treating you how you want to be treated and trust isn't an issue then why would you dump him?

purplewindex · #6 10-07-2006, 11:10 AM

Yeah, I guess I just don't understand why you would break up with someone who treats you well just because you're in a sorority. I've been with my boyfriend for four and a half years and in my sorority for almost three. Being in my sorority hasn't really been an issue in our relationship. I really would never consider breaking up with him just because I started pledging. But maybe there's more to the story.

epchick · #7 10-07-2006, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by flower33

Hey everyone I am a new number at a sorority and was just wondering how other girls end up after they join a sorority while having a boyfriend. I have been going out with him for about three years now and trust has never been an issue between us. I did recently bring up the talk about taking a break just because I did not want to always go out and have to worry about him worrying about me with other guys. All in all just wanted to know how many girls end up staying with their boyfriends, or end up splitting up after getting settled down at a sorority. thanks

If you want to break up with him, then break up with him...but don't use the sorority as an excuse, because many people have make both work.

I think the OP just wants to find an "out" of the relationship, and thinking that pldging is her key. at least thats MHO.

KAY10 · #8 10-08-2006, 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by epchick

If you want to break up with him, then break up with him...but don't use the sorority as an excuse, because many people have make both work.

I think the OP just wants to find an "out" of the relationship, and thinking that pldging is her key. at least thats MHO.

I'm just wondering is her boyfriend in a frat, because if he isn't it sounds to me that she wants to dump him and experiment with a frat boy. Happend all the time at my school. I've seen girls that I know who had boyfriends, hangin' out at our frat house. (without their boyfriends)

James · #9 10-08-2006, 05:05 AM

She could just cheat also . . . and if it doesn't work out, stay with her BF. I have seen that often enough.

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I'm just wondering is her boyfriend in a frat, because if he isn't it sounds to me that she wants to dump him and experiment with a frat boy. Happend all the time at my school. I've seen girls that I know who had boyfriends, hangin' out at our frat house. (without their boyfriends)

KAY10 · #10 10-09-2006, 01:14 AM

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She could just cheat also . . . and if it doesn't work out, stay with her BF. I have seen that often enough.

I know. It will probably be with some guy in a frat too. You right, but that is so jacked up. I don't understand why babes want to break it off with their dudes when they join a sorority, especially if he's not greek.

Cardinal026 · #11 10-09-2006, 11:25 AM

Flower33: Like AlphaFrog said, I don't believe that the outcome of your relationship would be a sole result of going through the new membership process - if you both want the relationship to work, it can.

I had been dating my boyfriend for 3 years also at the time I became a new member. He (not greek) was hesitant at first of mixers that I went to and whatnot, but as soon as he realized that I always told him what was going on, he felt pretty included. Plus I got to bring him to semi-formals, intramural games, etc. And we're still together - this Friday will be 6 years.

If you're talking about a break already though, do you really want this to work? It seems like you're looking for an out, especially if trust isn't a problem...

sisterzip · #12 10-09-2006, 12:12 PM

I would not worry about it to mutch. One of our new members is married. However it sounds like there trust isues in your relationship already. I agree that It sounds like you are looking for problems. Even if you are joining a sorority that keeps thier practices 'secret' you would no be keeping anything that serious from him

WVU alpha phi · #13 10-13-2006, 09:07 PM

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I would not worry about it to mutch. One of our new members is married. However it sounds like there trust isues in your relationship already. I agree that It sounds like you are looking for problems. Even if you are joining a sorority that keeps thier practices 'secret' you would no be keeping anything that serious from him

Married? Is she 18 or 19?
We had a girl come through rush this year that told us she had moved here with her 2 children and her boyfriend.. I don't think any sorority kept her after the second day. Married is a little different, but still.. is this common?

epchick · #14 10-14-2006, 02:20 AM

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Married? Is she 18 or 19?
We had a girl come through rush this year that told us she had moved here with her 2 children and her boyfriend.. I don't think any sorority kept her after the second day. Married is a little different, but still.. is this common?

I knew a girl that went through rush with me last year who was fresh outta high school, and was married. (I think she had been married for a while too). She wasn't even from my city, she had moved here w/ her husband. I don't know if they are still together though, from what I heard she moved to a different university....and nothing was ever mentioned again about a husband

KAY10 · #15 10-14-2006, 03:16 AM

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I knew a girl that went through rush with me last year who was fresh outta high school, and was married. (I think she had been married for a while too). She wasn't even from my city, she had moved here w/ her husband. I don't know if they are still together though, from what I heard she moved to a different university....and nothing was ever mentioned again about a husband

She probably dropped him like a bad habit. LOL