Why are questioning PNMs consistently demonized here?

[TriDeltaSallie]

I really don't understand why every time a hurting/confused/bewildered PNM comes on this board to try to find help and support, they end up being demonized. Yes, these questions get asked time and time again. Yes, there are lots of threads out there that address these questions.

But shouldn't we as women who belong to organizations that are committed to the highest goals and ideals of womanhood be able to take a few minutes and connect with another human being without making her feel like she is worthless? Reading older threads may supply some information, but it doesn't allow the woman to connect with other women who have more knowledge than she does. Even if every time this comes up a few of us would simply try to be kind and gracious, it would go a long way in living up to the ideals we say we profess for life. If these kinds of questions are an annoyance to some, then just ignore them. But certainly there are enough women on this board that we can take a few minutes to try to encourage someone who is searching for answers - even if the answer is to say with kindness and compassion that we don't know the answer. Maybe we've heard the same kind of story a million times before, but for this woman it is her story and therefore it is important to her.

Every PNM who comes here has a story that is probably more complicated than they could ever adequately explain when they leave a question. Isn't it possible that we graciously give them the benefit of the doubt rather than automatically assume they are just another annoyance to be crushed?

Although GC may not be any kind of "official" panhellenic gathering place, it is an active advertisement for what Greek women are like. I would hope that PNMs who come here would find the best in Greek women and would be more excited to become a part of us instead of feeling that we are women to be avoided at all costs.

I just don't understand the lack of compassion when I am sure this is a virtue championed by most - if not all - of the groups we represent.