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I reread that thread that the OP is referring to (How do sororities decide?) and I agree that many of GCers responded politely (and I, too, have seen it often. We are sympathetic and try to be helpful.)
The problem arises when people, for whatever reason, act flippant right off the bat. Post # 3 from the original thread comes to mind. The girl (OP) really had a legitimate question - she is naiive, obviously, but to spout off a comment about throwing darts in answer to what was obviously a real question was rude. It smacks of "we're in the club, you're not."
Again, many tried to help but one or two posters kept acting accusatory (like she should KNOW better which she obviously didn't or she wouldn't have cut the last house on pref night) and she eventually got defensive and that didn't bode well for the whole thread.
I agree, she didn't act in an exemplary manner but she didn't throw the first punch. IMO
Last edited by gee_ess; 02-09-2009 at 10:31 AM.
Reason: eta - many of you who are responding here are some of the best and most helpful to young, hurting pnm's. You do a great job!!
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