Why are questioning PNMs consistently demonized here?

[ZTA72]

Several posters (me included) did try to answer the questions in a considerate manner to the extent we were able. I do have compassion for PNMs and often send them encouraging PMs. BUT...it comes to a point that enough is enough. Sometimes, there are no answers that the PNM wants to hear.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by ZTA72

BUT...it comes to a point that enough is enough. Sometimes, there are no answers that the PNM wants to hear.

And I agree completely. But I still don't see why a PNM who is having a hard time accepting the answers they are getting needs to be attacked. If they want to live in denial, that is fine. Someone can choose not to listen to what we are telling them. But why does it have to end up in personal attacks and rude comments? Why don't we, as women who supposedly represent the finest in womanhood, take the high road?

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

You're right, Sallie. I often cringe at the harsh responses given to PNMs whose Recruitment didn't end well. But like others have said, sometimes they don't want to really hear and understand what we have to say. There's always some excuse on their part that they will hold onto regardless of its logic.

I'm all for supporting PNMs who are lost in the process. I just won't coddle someone who doesn't listen. Babying people isn't always the best approach. If they want to learn and grow, they've got to accept some harsh realities.

And I agree. But being honest doesn't mean being downright rude which is what I have seen numerous times here.

Originally Posted by Jen

We are anonymous folks on a message board.

No, we aren't. We're Greek women who represent 26 fine organizations committed to providing women with outstanding opportunities to grow as individuals.

Originally Posted by Jen

If they want information about a particular subject, almost every scenario on earth has been brought up here before and answered in full. When they are too lazy to check, then yeah, it gets old and tiring and no one wants to deal with it. If their question is answered and they persist on asking again and again (hoping the answer will change) or arguing the validity of the answer, then yeah, bitch needs a slap.

I can honestly say that I'm glad I don't know which NPC group you represent here. I find your attitude very sad.

[SWTXBelle]

In most of the threads I've read, the PNMs aren't "demonized" until they adopt a poor attitude. Most GCers are very sympathetic to those who do not have a successful recruitment UNLESS the PNMs/Moms decide to criticize the entire sorority system, or become snarky when they don't receive the answers they are looking for. Sometimes there simply is no answer that we in cyberland can give them - but they refuse to accept that. No matter how many times you post the same question, or how strident you become in demanding an answer, there are some topics we will not discuss, and some situations we simply do not have enough information on to give any insight.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

In most of the threads I've read, the PNMs aren't "demonized" until they adopt a poor attitude. Most GCers are very sympathetic to those who do not have a successful recruitment UNLESS the PNMs/Moms decide to criticize the entire sorority system, or become snarky when they don't receive the answers they are looking for. Sometimes there simply is no answer that we in cyberland can give them - but they refuse to accept that. No matter how many times you post the same question, or how strident you become in demanding an answer, there are some topics we will not discuss, and some situations we simply do not have enough information on to give any insight.

I stay out of the advice-giving since I'm not in an NPC organization. But, a lot of these PNMs are spoiled brats. If you come in and ask a question like the grown woman you are, NPC GCers always respond cordially and with as much information as they can give.