Are there any relationship experts here? Very serious question. Help.

[Dwight]

Hi, my name is Dwight and I've been viewing Greek Chat for a few months, now. During those months, I noticed all the professional people on here as I was reading posts. Hopfully, there's someone or maybe many here that can help me. I'm very serious because I think my girlfriend is ready to leave me. Please don't make fun of me.

Everything is good between the two of us except for when we have sex. We've been together for a little over a year, and she's just now telling me that my performance in bed is really poor. I was very hurt by that when she told me, but I was also glad she was upfront and honest with me. She kind of hinted to it about 6 months ago. Whenever I would ask her how I was she would just smile but never really give me a direct answer. I asked her what is was that I needed to work on, and she told me that I need to go longer. I try, but I can't help it. Two to three minutes and then it's over. According to her, it's about 30 to 45 seconds, but I know that's not true always. That's only when we haven't done it in a few days. I'm only 22 and I've even tried viagra, but I don't like using it because I stay erect for so long and it begins to hurt. I love having sex with her, but I don't like the after effect, because she doesn't say anything and even during sex, she just lays there. Then when I'm done she rubs my back and pats me on it as if to say get up, you're horrible. It seems like she just wants me to finish. I really love her but I'm afraid she's going to leave me. Has anyone else experienced this? Can someone please help me? I don't want to lose her.