For the ladies.. "Why aren't you married?"

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Guys would come up to me in their thuggish ways and ask: Where's yo man?

I got tired of explaining why I chose to be single and unattached to ignorance like that. So I started responding, "Where's yours..."

That put an end to it...

That sounds so San Francisco

[Bajan_Delta]

I've been with the same man for over 5 years and we've both been ask that question a ridiculous amount of time. We both respond "When you pay for it." Quite honestly we are broke, and though we've been "shacking up" for about 3 years, I see marriage as sacred and I don't want to become a statistic (one of the 52% of people getting divorce). Though people say well if you love him what's the problem. The problem is love don't pay the bills. Finances plays a large part in a marriage and I'm not going to get into a union with no money.

[teena]

Originally posted by BlueReign
Ladies,

I am curious as to how others respond. I get asked this question a lot and I get irritated at the person every time. How do you respond when people (mostly men) ask you this.

It depends on if I think the person will get my humor. I will say that I am married and me and my husband live our own lives. If he asks me more info about my husband, I will drop hints that that it is a crazy mutual friend.

Ok. But for real, can someone tell me why I'm not married?

[TRSimon]

Originally posted by NinjaPoodle


That sounds so San Francisco

Doesn't it, though? LOL

[Lady of Pearl]

Too busy getting my education ,- timing- haven't met the one intended for me! a couple of false missteps -but now feel that I am on the path destined for me in due time

[Strongbeauty]

Personally, I have no desire to get married. Thus I don't date... I believe that the purpose of dating is to find your mate for life. Since I don't date, I have not found a mate... it all kinda works together. Now who knows, maybe when I reach my 40s-50s I will want marriage but until then, I will just enjoy being with me, myself and I.

[Bajan_Delta]

I'm getting married!! But for the reason stated below we are waiting 2 years so we can save for it and plan accordingly. So now I gotta answer the question, "why you waiting so long".

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
I've been with the same man for over 5 years and we've both been ask that question a ridiculous amount of time. We both respond "When you pay for it." Quite honestly we are broke, and though we've been "shacking up" for about 3 years, I see marriage as sacred and I don't want to become a statistic (one of the 52% of people getting divorce). Though people say well if you love him what's the problem. The problem is love don't pay the bills. Finances plays a large part in a marriage and I'm not going to get into a union with no money.

[aephi alum]

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
I'm getting married!! But for the reason stated below we are waiting 2 years so we can save for it and plan accordingly. So now I gotta answer the question, "why you waiting so long".

Congrats!

And you just answered the question: You're waiting so that you can plan and save for the wedding and reception you want. If your families press the issue, just tell them that if they want you married sooner, you can always elope and then they won't get to be there when you get married... they'll shut up

[Bajan_Delta]

I know these people, they tell me to go ahead and elope, I'm sure they don't care. What will shut them up if they want us to get married sooner, is if I tell them pay for it. I'd marry this man tomorrow if I could but no one is going to put me in the poor house to satisfy them.

Originally posted by aephi alum
Congrats!

And you just answered the question: You're waiting so that you can plan and save for the wedding and reception you want. If your families press the issue, just tell them that if they want you married sooner, you can always elope and then they won't get to be there when you get married... they'll shut up

[aephi alum]

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
What will shut them up if they want us to get married sooner, is if I tell them pay for it.

That works too...

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
I'm getting married!!

Congratulations!!

[NinjaPoodle]

TTT * topic worthy of more discussion

[TRSimon]

Just what folks want to hear at the annual Christmas parties.... LOLOL....

[Benzgirl]

I hate this question and I get it at least once each week.

My responses depend on my mood and who is asking. Here are some of them....

• "You now owe me $20 bucks." (I don't tell them why and really have no reason that I said it)
• "why should I, your marriage didn't last" (Only to someone I don't like)
• "I'm not a serial bride like you are" (ditto, and I did say it twice.)
• "So you are on marriage number 3 and you are 35 years old. You have used up my share of weddings."
• "Didn't you marry and divorce one of your ex-husbands twice?"
• "I hate silly games at bridal showers"
• "Is this a proposal?" (the guy must be worthly of this response)
• "I'm a liberal"
• "I'm impossible to live with" (there is a lot of truth to this answer)
• "I can't live on a schedule" (all truth)
• "I don't need to"
• "Why"
• "I plan to be a hermit after I retire" (I say that one all the time to my mother)
• "There is no room for anyone to move into my house" or "there is no closet space left" or "I have too much furniture to make room for anyone else" (all truth)

But, all I really want to say is, "none of your G. D. Biz"

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

I hate this question and I get it at least once each week.

My responses depend on my mood and who is asking. Here are some of them....

• "You now owe me $20 bucks." (I don't tell them why and really have no reason that I said it)
• "why should I, your marriage didn't last" (Only to someone I don't like)
• "I'm not a serial bride like you are" (ditto, and I did say it twice.)
• "So you are on marriage number 3 and you are 35 years old. You have used up my share of weddings."
• "Didn't you marry and divorce one of your ex-husbands twice?"
• "I hate silly games at bridal showers"
• "Is this a proposal?" (the guy must be worthly of this response)
• "I'm a liberal"
• "I'm impossible to live with" (there is a lot of truth to this answer)
• "I can't live on a schedule" (all truth)
• "I don't need to"
• "Why"
• "I plan to be a hermit after I retire" (I say that one all the time to my mother)
• "There is no room for anyone to move into my house" or "there is no closet space left" or "I have too much furniture to make room for anyone else" (all truth)

But, all I really want to say is, "none of your G. D. Biz"

LOL!!!!!!