For the ladies.. "Why aren't you married?"
 

Ladies,

I am curious as to how others respond. I get asked this question a lot and I get irritated at the person every time. How do you respond when people (mostly men) ask you this.

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My response is always "I haven't met the right person".

Works for me! :)

It's by choice! It seems like this is one of the last areas where strangers feels it's ok to get in your biz-ness!

I just say, "If it hasn't happened yet then it isn't my time."

If a man asks me, I say "Because you haven't asked me yet":p
If a woman asks I say "Because I don't have to";)

I used to say I had just retired my player card and wasn't taking applications for husbands. Now it's just there are a few more things I want to accomplish in life, namely finishing this degree, before I settle down and start being a wife and mother.

Mr amycat and I have been dating for two years and get this alot.

my response is usually something like-- if we're gonna spend the rest of our lives together, what's the hurry to get married? We're together now, we'd be together then, etc.

I have been with Mr. LI84 for three months (officially). Three months.

Already I have been asked TWICE when we are getting married. I just looked at those people like they were craaaaazy and said nothing, lol.

I'm 24, I just don't feel like I should be thinking marriage for a couple of years.

I just tell them I am not ready. Or the ying to my yang has not came looking for me.

that usually gets them to shut up.

yes, when we're/I am ready is a good one too. I use that often as well.

Why fix what ain't broken is good too. lol We're happy now, why mess with it, etc.

My co-worker and I were talking about this morning. This guy was in there trying to get signed up for some overtime and he was flirting with me to do it. (no it didn't work) Anyway, he was like "Are you married? Well, do you have a boyfriend?" I'm like "No...not really?". So he says "Why is a beautiful woman like you still single, you have a job, your own car/crib, etc?". I said, "Are you married? Do you have a girlfriend?" No. "Then WTF are you still single?" I get tired of people asking me this making me feel like there is something wrong with me and THEY are still single.


BUZZZZZZZ OFFFF :mad:

Sorry, that's a pet peeve of mine.

ETA: I just thought about something G-Ma Savvy said (that's my girl). She asked me if I was serious with the guy that I'm dating. I told her that I like him, and she said "...but he's no Mr. Right?" I told her that he isn't at this point. So she tells me, "Well, in that case, have some fun with Mr. Right Now...just as long as he's not Mr. Wrong." I love G-Ma :D

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Nope, I have no children and I get asked that all the time. It's a sensitive matter and I think it's in bad taste when people ask.

Ive been dating the same guy for over 2 years and I get that question alot, my answer...

Personally I have some goals career-wise and personal that I want to get done before I get married.

Most of the time I get praised for that answer, and called "a smart sista"

Savvy Diva,

I'm with you on this....Buzz the f-- off!!:mad:

I guess why I posted this question is that I often feel like I have to apologize AFTER I had told somebody off for asking me an overly personal question in the first place.

I'm single, attractive, highly independent and often the way that the question is posed it's like "there must be something wrong with you" because you're not married.

I have been down that road before and have 3 children as a result. Now the question that usually comes is, "have you ever thought about re-marrying?" WHY? That is all the more reason for me to be even more highly selective in getting married again because I have little ones. Now it would be nice to have a hand to help in raising them but that is not the sole reason for me to re-marry. Somehow people (mostly men) find it hard to believe that I haven't met someone yet. (Well I have recently but I realize that I still should not be in no hurry).

I have to vent here because lately, I get this question almost daily believe it or not and I am sick of responding.

How bout the flip side of this. Why is it when a man is pass a certain age, attractive, educated, employed and still single it's ok? I have a co-worker who "brags" about this.:rolleyes:

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Agreed!:o