For the ladies.. "Why aren't you married?"

[DSTCHAOS]

I am surrounded by successful marriages, as well as marriages that lasted decades and ended in divorce.

Learn from these but do not allow what you learn to provide a self-fulfilling prophecy. The men and women in these situations are not you and the man you will be with. Take the general lessons but do not try to apply them too much to your life because they won't always apply.

Being cynical is okay if it keeps you realistic and conscious. Not if it scares potentials aways and gives you a huge chip on the shoulder that prevents you from having a successful marriage.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I am surrounded by successful marriages, as well as marriages that lasted decades and ended in divorce.

Learn from these but do not allow what you learn to provide a self-fulfilling prophecy. The men and women in these situations are not you and the man you will be with. Take the general lessons but do not try to apply them too much to your life because they won't always apply.

Being cynical is okay if it keeps you realistic and conscious. Not if it scares potentials aways and gives you a huge chip on the shoulder that prevents you from having a successful marriage.

YES, YES, YES! You read my mind

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

YES, YES, YES! You read my mind

Everyone has their own baggage. We deal with it, accordingly.

Most people are so afraid of being hurt or disappointed. After they've scared all the potentials away and ruined enough relationships, they say "there are no good men/women out here" or "God meant for me to be unmarried (which is possible however it often isn't)."

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Everyone has their own baggage. We deal with it, accordingly.

Most people are so afraid of being hurt or disappointed. After they've scared all the potentials away and ruined enough relationships, they say "there are no good men/women out here" or "God meant for me to be unmarried (which is possible however it often isn't)."

This is sooooo true. When I decided that God didn't mean for me to get married, that's when I found my mate (or my mate found me) and it was just around the time that I was really starting to get used to the idea of not getting married. So I truly believe now that when God is ready, he will send you someone just for you. Until that time, live life to the fullest and work on becoming the best you that you can be. You should be a whole and complete person before you marry another whole and complete person anyway so if you have things to work on (and most of us do), maybe this is the reason you are still single.

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by tld221

I'm single.
I'm young.
I have no kids.
I have no desire to get married.

Originally Posted by tld221

maybe "bitter" is a harsh word.

i agree with most of what yall have said. and honestly, IF the right person comes along and im feeling it, sure, break out wedding bells. and i dont base my decision of not wanting to be married on just my parents' failed marriage, but off other marriages - grandparents, uncles, cousins, family friends, etc. its hard to imagine a happy marriage for myself because i didnt grow up around it. in similar fashion, i cant see myself having children and enjoying it because ive never seen any joy from parents that i know. it always seems more like a job than a joy, a burden rather than a blessing.

Once again, we are ---->here<------

I would like to add that I find the concept of marriage itself unappealing, even if they are successful. I cannot IMAGINE staying with ONE person for REST of my life! I would die of boredom, or do a hell a lot of cheating.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

Once again, we are ---->here<------

I would like to add that I find the concept of marriage itself unappealing, even if they are successful. I cannot IMAGINE staying with ONE person for REST of my life! I would die of boredom, or do a hell a lot of cheating.

LOL but honesty is a great thing.