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jessipoo915 · #1 02-02-2010, 03:00 AM

vanity fair,

I can say my situation was very much like yours. I dont think i felt truly at home with my chapter until I moved in to the house. While i never seriously considered dropping or depledging, I can relate to not feeling like I fit in with my pledge sisters.

Having said that, I found other ways to get involved in the chapter outside of my pledge class. I joined exec board the semester after initiation and I am now chapter president. I sometimes think about how awkward I felt in those first few months, but what you get out of Greek life is what you put in to it. I chose to give it my all and it has been the most beautiful, rewarding, exciting, decision I have ever made for myself.

Think long and hard before you pass up on something that might be just as great.

ThetaPrincess24 · #2 02-02-2010, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by jessipoo915

vanity fair,

I can say my situation was very much like yours. I dont think i felt truly at home with my chapter until I moved in to the house. While i never seriously considered dropping or depledging, I can relate to not feeling like I fit in with my pledge sisters.

Having said that, I found other ways to get involved in the chapter outside of my pledge class. I joined exec board the semester after initiation and I am now chapter president. I sometimes think about how awkward I felt in those first few months, but what you get out of Greek life is what you put in to it. I chose to give it my all and it has been the most beautiful, rewarding, exciting, decision I have ever made for myself.

Think long and hard before you pass up on something that might be just as great.

Excellent post!!

ThetaPrincess24 · #3 02-02-2010, 04:24 PM

I think I know what university this is. I would heed the advice of others on this board and make an honest effort to try to get to know the ladies of the chapter and your pledge class. If by initiation day you still feel this way, then I would say quit, but note this chapter that extended you a bid may be your only chance of being greek. If you choose to quit and particpate in recruitment again next spring, do be prepared for the high possibility of not receiving a bid anywhere. De-pledging and being a sophomore will be big strikes against you.

ADPiTigergurl · #4 02-02-2010, 12:52 PM

Ok so normally the more sororities there are the more competitive rush is going to be. With that said you will be a sophomore, going through a more competitive rush and already having accepted a bid and then dropping. They won't know why you dropped they will just know u did. Therefore you run (what I'm going to assume please correct me if im wrong) a fairly high chance that you may NOT recieve a bid. Lets face it if it is down to 2 girls with the same GPA, recs, activities etc. they are more likely to give it to the freshmen who didn't already drop out of a bid. SO would you rather be a Tri Pi or not be Greek at all, that is pretty much what it comes down to? ALso this sounds like you went through formal meaning you already saw all 14 chapters and for whatever reason they dropped you (AS ZBZ DID!!!) or you dropped them.

Also about your reasons for droppng. Yes they are pretty superficial. Sorry but I have to ask are they holding formal meeting every week? Based on your description of what yall were wearing, I'm going to say they aren't. Please correct me if I'm wrong. But if they aren't why did you feel the need to dress up? (We hold formal neeting on a weekly basis, and we would love to be able to come to meeting in jeans and uggs and ditch the heels) I'm not saying it is bad, I'm just saying maybe it isn't quite what you were expecting, and that why your hesitant to liking them. "Because it doesn't fit it with what your friends sororities are doing or because its not the stereotype you were hoping to find."

AnotherKD · #5 02-02-2010, 01:15 PM

I have been reading this thread and want to add one thing that came from my experience. When I was a sister going through my first spring recruitment, there was a girl that was rushing with a friend of hers. I don't really know why, but we did NOT click at all. She was on my hall freshman year, and for some reason we just didn't like each other. She didn't even want to rush our house because I was a member. She only came to our events because her friend basically dragged her there.

As you can guess, she pledged us. Half a semester later, she and I chose each other as our big/little. She became one of my very best friends and we were in each others' weddings.

I know that the things that you've listed seem to add up to a lot in your mind, but they don't seem to be big things to me. Everyone has a "What if?" that they sometimes think about. You've gotta take what you've got and run with it sometimes- you'll come to find that you will get out of it what you put into it. If you've always wanted to be greek and now you've been accepted into an organization, then make it what you want. Want to get involved with more houses? Run for office or for Panhel. Participate your ass off in things like Greek Week. Make your greek world and your college world what you want. It goes by SO fast.

RedHotSigDelt · #6 02-03-2010, 01:43 AM

I got my second choice during recruitment. I thought about depledging numerous times. And even since being initiated, there have been times that I questioned my choice. But ultimately, accepting my bid was probably the best decision I've ever made. There times when I felt like I didn't fit in, like I didn't have any friends, times when some of my sisters said things that were stupid or unkind. But I've also gained confidence, leadership skills, and friends for life, and I wouldn't exchange that for ANYTHING.

No sorority is perfect. As great as ZBZ came across during recruitment, I'm sure they have flaws as well, but you wouldn't see them unless you were a member. If the worst things about Tri Pi are their outfit choices and enthusiasm, you could really do a lot worse. And as a sidenote - I'm sure recruitment rules vary from campus to campus, but at my school, telling a girl you think she would fit in is an infraction that comes with a pretty hefty fine...

And as for the girls talking trash about other sororities...I guarantee that this happens in EVERY chapter. But it's probably a minority. If it really bothers you, say something about it - you'd be surprised who backs you up

In conclusion...give them a chance.