Please Help! I just have questions...

[vanityfair5]

Oh and I've been attending non-mandatory events I have gone to two regular socials, one sister social, spent the night at an older girls house, and gone to 2 Tri Pi pregame/ parties.

[ADPiTigergurl]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Oh and I've been attending non-mandatory events I have gone to two regular socials, one sister social, spent the night at an older girls house, and gone to 2 Tri Pi pregame/ parties.

ok so this is random and i know everyone says the Greek community is over programmed but have they really held 3 socials and 2 parties in a week? That just seems really extreme to me...

[Xylochick216]

Like others have said, the connection won't always be instant. I remember being so overwhelmed during my new member period and trying to get to know so many people. I didn't actually get to know many of them very well during my new member period. I studied abroad the next semester, and when I came back, I was thrown right into recruitment. Sisters I didn't know because my closest friends, and they're the ones who are my best friends today.

Also, I wouldn't worry about them having different fashion than you. Having someone who is a little different from the majority is always a good thing. I'm sure there are more people who share your tastes than you realize.

Bottom line: It's hard to genuinely get to know women in a short period of time in a setting that may be outside of your comfort zone. But you get out of it what you put in. Going through recruitment as an upperclassman can be difficult and could hinder you from being Greek at all. Think about that before you make any decisions. If you won't be happy at all, then by all means depledge. Just remember: as Zillini said, if Tri Pi hadn't made quota, then you would have been on their bid list because you listed them first.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by vanityfair5

Oh and I've been attending non-mandatory events I have gone to two regular socials, one sister social, spent the night at an older girls house, and gone to 2 Tri Pi pregame/ parties.

That's good, but how have you been attending non-mandatory events? Have you gone to every event judging the girls' clothes and thinking "OMGZ- ZBZ would NEVER have a {insert theme here} social!". Or, have you gone to every event thinking "Hey, I'll give these girls an honest chance."

Because if it's the former, no wonder you haven't felt a connection! (A) You are radiating an I-don't-want-to-be-here personality. No one will befriend or even reach out to that person and (B) you've gone in with a mindset set in stone.

TRY. Don't just go to events but TRY. Invite a sister who admires your cute heels or jewlery to go shopping with you. Go out for lunch with someone who is in your class. TRY.

Finally, a lame non-GLO-based analogy:

I have to take Analytical Chemistry to graduate with a degree in my second major. I hate Analytical Chemistry, with a bloody, bloody passion. I could drop out of Analytical Chemistry, because I can graduate with one degree, go to Medical School, and be happy.

But I really want that second degree: I feel like it contributes a lot to my undergraduate experience. So, I'm stuck in a class I hate 5 days a week, at 7:45 on three of those days.

So, I've been trying to find pieces of it I enjoy. And, I'm finding (much to my surprise) that I like Analytical Chemistry. I don't really mind waking up early anymore and I'm enjoying the class, after I tried really (REALLY) hard to like it.

Yes, there are parts of it that perpetually suck. But, I'll find that in any class I take.
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ZBZ (I'm 100% positive on it) has parts you would dislike, maybe more than you know. Try and find things in Tri-Pi you enjoy; I'm positive you'll end up finding at least a few things you like!