Older Perp - Page 3

FSUZeta · #1 12-31-2009, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by CutiePie2000

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PS You could also play dumb and ask her, "Do you think that you will AI into ABC? To do so, you cannot have initiated into any other NPC group. Did you initiate into any other NPC group during college?" and then see what she says. If she says no, ask her if she ever had any ties to DEF? And then see what she says. My point is, if you ask her anything where she might get defensive, you might not get the straight up answer.

good luck and let us know what happens, as I'm curious now - LOL.

this sounds like the best solution by far. how ironic and sad that she may miss an opportunity to enjoy sisterhood in a wonderful sorority, all because she is posing as a DEF.

Just interested · #2 12-30-2009, 10:43 PM

Is it possible she pledged and didn't make her grades?? In the olden days, you pledged in August but didn't initiate until March or April. I also have friends who pledged and then transfered to another school without a chapter of ABC before they were initiated. Is that a possibility? I do agree with Cutie Pie 2000, keep the peace, it is family and if she would make at great AI, they are few and far between so it would be an honor, encourage her to go for it. It will be up to her to explain herself.

Titchou · #3 12-31-2009, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Just interested

I also have friends who pledged and then transfered to another school without a chapter of ABC before they were initiated. Is that a possibility?

I have a friend who did this and insists on saying she's an "AA". The next question is always "where" and then she fesses up that she pledged at XYZ University but tranferred to ABC College before she was initiated. Burns me up!

WCsweet<3 · #4 04-02-2012, 01:23 AM

I'm all for saving face, but it's three years later. Time for "Listen ho, stop playin'!" She is messing with your daughter now!

Though I'm curious to know how she would respond to your daughter asking for a rec.

Splash · #5 04-02-2012, 03:26 AM

Why don't you just ask her non-aggressively as suggested? Almost everything in this thread is an assumption or hearsay. You might very well be dead right, but you should at least know the facts to properly handle what to do next.

carnation · #6 04-02-2012, 07:08 AM

I do know the facts! She's definitely not a DEF. My daughter won't need a DEF rec because that group isn't at her college but I'm tempted to get her to ask D for one to see how she reacts.

28StGreek · #7 04-08-2012, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by carnation

I do know the facts! She's definitely not a DEF. My daughter won't need a DEF rec because that group isn't at her college but I'm tempted to get her to ask D for one to see how she reacts.

Are you at the point where the only recs you're allowing your daughter to get are for Pi Phi? So you can finally get your legacy? :-P

But in all seriousness, good luck for another recruitment! Your daughter will be one of the most prepared PNMs in the country :-)

FSUZeta · #8 04-08-2012, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by 28StGreek

Are you at the point where the only recs you're allowing your daughter to get are for Pi Phi? So you can finally get your legacy? :-P

But in all seriousness, good luck for another recruitment! Your daughter will be one of the most prepared PNMs in the country :-)

that would work if daughter was attending a school with a pi phi chapter,but alas, poor carnation will have to wait in the hopes that another daughter will attend a school that has pi phi!

DubaiSis · #9 04-02-2012, 08:07 AM

With all your connections, couldn't she get an AI somewhere? I mean, there ARE alternatives to lying about it. Maybe that's the way to approach it, just to see what happens - hey, I was talking about this thing my sorority does and pretty much all the sororities do and it seems like something you'd be into. No, I'm not suggesting you put her up for AI in your sorority (and please don't put her up to MINE) but the fact is it does exist, she may be in a position to be well-received, and it would out her all at the same time.

amIblue? · #10 04-02-2012, 08:18 AM

I think you should have your daughter ask her for a rec.

thetalady · #11 04-02-2012, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by amIblue?

I think you should have your daughter ask her for a rec.

DEFINITELY!!!!!

carnation · #12 04-02-2012, 01:31 PM

Good thing that she doesn't need one for that group!

Aaaand yet another daughter now knows that her relative is a perp. I wasn't going to tell her but...

ComradesTrue · #13 04-02-2012, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by amIblue?

I think you should have your daughter ask her for a rec.

Except even a perp could get away with this. She just says "sure, send me your stuff." The PNM would then never know that she didn't actually write/send in the rec. Hopefully she hasn't already done that to unsuspecting PNMs.

carnation · #14 04-02-2012, 01:40 PM

That's been my biggest worry all along. She isn't flashing paraphernalia, just spreading the word that she's a DEF. This could definitely affect some girls' recruitments.

SWTXBelle · #15 04-02-2012, 02:19 PM

Another reason to go ahead and register with your local alumnae panhellenic, even if you think you've got all your rec bases covered.

Hey - do you know any DEFs who would be in a position to "out" her?