Older Perp

[Gusteau]

^^Yeah, I could see someone in that situation making excuses so they don't have to write the rec and expose themselves as a perp.

I think the best way to go about it would be to confront her in a positive way like "Oh, D, Mrs. Smith told me you became a DEF, did you initiate after Snookie joined?" Of course she could lie about that too, but its a better way to approach it than "Listen ho, stop playin'!"

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Gusteau

^^Yeah, I could see someone in that situation making excuses so they don't have to write the rec and expose themselves as a perp.

I think the best way to go about it would be to confront her in a positive way like "Oh, D, Mrs. Smith told me you became a DEF, did you initiate after Snookie joined?" Of course she could lie about that too, but its a better way to approach it than "Listen ho, stop playin'!"

I vote for the latter. Totally.

In all seriousness: I wouldn't worry too much about it. Perps will eventually expose themselves (especially with 2 kids in the org--I'm sure they know that mom's not an ABC.")

I've never heard of anyone being able to perp their whole lives without being discovered.

[carnation]

My oldest son votes for "Listen ho, stop playin," but my fear is that she'll offer to write recs for unsuspecting PNMs and then , of course, not do it because she can't. Actually, my kids have come up with a ton of hilarious things we could say to her, none of which we could really say. LOL, they're awful.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Gusteau

"Listen ho, stop playin'!"

I do believe this will be my next siggy lol

To carnation: Another question (forgive my NPC ignorance) - I also remember reading on here that city Panhellenic associations help coordinate recs for interested women. If Susie PNM knows D and asks her for a rec, can she submit one, or is there some sort of protocol that requires her to go through the city's Panhellenic?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I do believe this will be my next siggy lol

To carnation: Another question (forgive my NPC ignorance) - I also remember reading on here that city Panhellenic associations help coordinate recs for interested women. If Susie PNM knows D and asks her for a rec, can she submit one, or is there some sort of protocol that requires her to go through the city's Panhellenic?

Recs don't have to be secured via an Alumnae Panhellenic. PNMs can get them from individual alumnae that they know.

[carnation]

Individual alums can almost always submit recs, although in some cities they're vetted by the City PH. Around here--and in most places--there's not a city PH, we just send them directly to the chapters. I don't think there's any way that she can fake one and send it in but she can sure lie about sending one. Since that sorority is so common around here, she could possibly screw up someone's rush experience if they thought they were covered for that group but weren't.

Blue Skies, that sounds diplomatic, maybe I could try that.

[Blue Skies]

That's a tough one, Carnation. I would approach it indirectly, and say something like, "You know, I've been hearing the funniest thing! -- a number of people are under the impression that you're a DEF" (at which point, she'll probably deny it.) Then you could add, "I would hate for a PNM to approach you thinking that she can count on you for a rec. That might ruin her rush." At least it would give her something to think about.

Ultimately, you're not responsible for her behavior. But you can be honest with others if they ask: "As far as I know, she never joined DEF at State U."

It's truly an unfortunate situation.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Gusteau

"Listen ho, stop playin'!"

*snicker*

[Gusteau]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

*snicker*

I'm so glad I had something positive to contribute to this thread...