How to make it work?

[lechat]

I was fine like 30 minutes after I made this thread, lol. I think it was just a fleeting kind disappointment. Honestly, I don't think i would have fit in at the other house overall. There were a few girls there that I DID make friends with, and I'll continue to hang out with them. But the overall house? I fit a thousand times better where I went.

I love where I am and I love my new sisters. I was letting the recruitment process cloud the fact that I really do get along with these girls. It just took a little time outside of everything to realize that.

I haven't read through this completely yet, so I'm not sure how harsh everyone was. But I definitely wasn't trying to be ungrateful or bratty at all - I was just confused and I let expectations get in the way.

[lechat]

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

Based on your prior posts, you are a junior, and since you accepted your bid, won't have a chance to pledge again until your senior year. Chances are slim to none that you will get a bid when a senior. AOPi Angel is right...time to move on.

My advice is to step it up and be an adult. In life, we don't often work with people we like but need to make it work. Connect with your pledge sisters. I'm sure you will find something in common with someone. Remember, being in a sorority is not about 2-4 years. It's a lifetime commitment.

I never even considered not accepting the bid? Or dropping out? I trusted the fact that those girls chose me - I was just having trouble adjusting.

I felt uncomfortable at first and I wasn't sure how it would work out. It IS a lot of money to pay if you're not happy - but I certainly wasn't considering dropping out. And not because I'm a junior and wouldn't get a bid...

but because these ladies put time and effort into getting to know me and choosing me for their chapter. That's worth something to me. I didn't approach joining lightly.

[Jobellesis]

You didn't appear bratty to me. I think I know what you felt. I probably had the same feelings. I'm glad you've settled in. Congratulations and enjoy being part of a great sisterhood.

[AZTheta]

HJ Greek had this on their FB page this morning. How appropriate, I thought, for your situation:

"Sisterhood and brotherhood is a condition people have to work at." ~Maya Angelou

And I couldn't agree more with this:

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

And I loved my years as a collegian, but think of these 4 years as 4 years out of 70+ you have left. Because once you're initiated you have a lifetime to be a member.

Did not see any harshness directed at you; rather, lots of support and great suggestions. My take: you're being truthful AND you're a little more mature as a junior, so you're looking at this and processing through it quickly. I am pleased that you've already come to feel strongly about your chapter and that you know that they wanted you very much. It took me a while to feel that I "fit" in; I kept comparing my insides to everyone else's outsides, which is a guaranteed recipe for disaster.

If you wish, come back and share with us from time to time; we like to hear how things go after recruitment. Welcome to the wonderful world of sisterhood. It IS for a lifetime. You'll have a bond with all of us, regardless of letters.

[DoctorD]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

You'll have a bond with all of us, regardless of letters.

This statement alone made me wish I could "like" this post.