How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[Zillini]

I'm no longer shocked by angry legacy moms. What kills me though are:

- Those who don't bother sending in Intros and Recs for their own daughters. (Had a double legacy this year with nothing.)

- Those who think that "direct" legacies (i.e. mom was initiated at this chapter) deserve more consideration than a legacy from another chapter. (Have had moms chew me out because my chapter pledged legacies with moms from Somewhereelse U and not their daughters.)

- Moms who think minimum GPAs don't apply to legacies and we should automatically give them grade exceptions. Um ...no.

- Moms who have no idea what their precious daughters have posted on Facebook for the world to see. :groan:

- Moms who think that just because they were Pres or held whatever office 18+ years ago their legacy deserves more consideration. Hey, I've been working with this chapter for 15 years and I've never even heard your name. To paraphrase Janet Jackson, what have you done for us lately?

- Moms who throw a hissy fit because they've given money to the I/Natl org and/or Foundation over the years. Did you donate because you believe in your org or was it supposed to be a bribe? Besides, how fair would it be if we discriminated against legacies whose parents aren't wealthy enough to give a ton of money?

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Zillini

I'm no longer shocked by angry legacy moms. What kills me though are:

- Those who don't bother sending in Intros and Recs for their own daughters. (Had a double legacy this year with nothing.)

- Those who think that "direct" legacies (i.e. mom was initiated at this chapter) deserve more consideration than a legacy from another chapter. (Have had moms chew me out because my chapter pledged legacies with moms from Somewhereelse U and not their daughters.)

- Moms who think minimum GPAs don't apply to legacies and we should automatically give them grade exceptions. Um ...no.

- Moms who have no idea what their precious daughters have posted on Facebook for the world to see. :groan:

- Moms who think that just because they were Pres or held whatever office 18+ years ago their legacy deserves more consideration. Hey, I've been working with this chapter for 15 years and I've never even heard your name. To paraphrase Janet Jackson, what have you done for us lately?

- Moms who throw a hissy fit because they've given money to the I/Natl org and/or Foundation over the years. Did you donate because you believe in your org or was it supposed to be a bribe? Besides, how fair would it be if we discriminated against legacies whose parents aren't wealthy enough to give a ton of money?

Bwah ha ha ha ha ha ha

[Low C Sharp]

Moms who have no idea what their precious daughters have posted on Facebook for the world to see. :groan:

Wouldn't it be great if you could tell those moms exactly what you saw? I've been in a similar position with job applicants.
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[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

Wouldn't it be great if you could tell those moms exactly what you saw? I've been in a similar position with job applicants.

My parents have a facebook, for this reason. Though I'm old enough to be stupid on facebook if I want to be (I keep my profile very clean), my siblings aren't. Poor them.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

My parents have a facebook, for this reason. Though I'm old enough to be stupid on facebook if I want to be (I keep my profile very clean), my siblings aren't. Poor them.

Hopefully your siblings are smart enough to filter their parents out of anything they don't want them to see.

[FSUZeta]

how sweet. i love the story of your chapter sister.

[AGDee]

I am feeling a strange sense of relief that the schools my daughter has highest on her list don't have Alpha Gam chapters. While she's only going into her senior year and I told her that I thought she would really enjoy sorority life, I've left it all up to her at this point. It would be more difficult for me if she was going somewhere that has an Alpha Gam chapter. I figure if she doesn't go greek as a collegian, there's always AI ... LOL. (Which, in this case, would be awesome!)

[BetteDavisEyes]

My daughter isn't even born yet & Mike casually mentioned to me the other day if I was planning on bringing up joining a sorority (specifically Sigma Kappa) to our little girl. I just stared at him before laughing and telling him to ask me again when she graduates high school & goes to college in 17-18 years.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes

My daughter isn't even born yet & Mike casually mentioned to me the other day if I was planning on bringing up joining a sorority (specifically Sigma Kappa) to our little girl. I just stared at him before laughing and telling him to ask me again when she graduates high school & goes to college in 17-18 years.

You could try the subliminal approach that I tried. Up until age 1, all of her lullabies were Alpha Gam songs. I figured then, if she heard them during recruitment, she would get a warm, fuzzy feeling and feel "at home" there. We may not be able to find out if it worked though.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by AGDee

You could try the subliminal approach that I tried. Up until age 1, all of her lullabies were Alpha Gam songs. I figured then, if she heard them during recruitment, she would get a warm, fuzzy feeling and feel "at home" there. We may not be able to find out if it worked though.

i did the same thing-not to indoctrinate her with zeta songs so that she would subliminally think "mama" when she heard a zeta song, but because often at 2 a.m. those were the only songs i could recall!! i also sang them to my son. sweet memories.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

i did the same thing-not to indoctrinate her with zeta songs so that she would subliminally think "mama" when she heard a zeta song, but because often at 2 a.m. those were the only songs i could recall!! i also sang them to my son. sweet memories.

That was part of it too, honestly.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes

My daughter isn't even born yet & Mike casually mentioned to me the other day if I was planning on bringing up joining a sorority (specifically Sigma Kappa) to our little girl. I just stared at him before laughing and telling him to ask me again when she graduates high school & goes to college in 17-18 years.

If you stay active in Sigma Kappa, she'll probably get the message without you having to explicitly say it.

[BetteDavisEyes]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

If you stay active in Sigma Kappa, she'll probably get the message without you having to explicitly say it.

Well, she'll get her first taste next summer when we travel to Convention. Mike is going with me to watch her while I do the mtgs & events & we're staying a few additional days afterwards. Lol! If you go, you'll get to meet her.

I LOVE the idea of singing her Sigma Kappa songs as lullabies. I'm already humming a few of them.

[FSUZeta]

survival, baby!

[KSUViolet06]

Bump because it's about that time. Good advice here for parents.