What do you feel like saying, right now?

[Cheerio]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

If I were y’all, I’d just move closer like you’re doing, and stay committed without doing the marriage thing. You don’t have to marry to be together. I work with a lady who’s been with her dude for 30 years without getting married.

Having watched too much Judge Judy over the years, I can say getting married is better than not when it comes to eventually possibly breaking up.

[Zach]

I think Phrozen’s on to something here, and I say that as someone who’s lived through it twice. One of the things I’ve learned is that when women detach emotionally, they’re already halfway gone. You usually don’t see it coming because on the surface, everything seems fine. But once that emotional switch flips, it’s over, she’s not working her way back, she’s working her way out. That’s why the stats are what they are. Women file for the majority of divorces, and it’s not usually because of abuse, it’s because they weren’t happy.

And that’s the scary part. You can be faithful, help with bills, do everything you think is right, and still wake up one day blindsided by papers you didn’t expect. To gamble a man’s home, security, and future on the stability of someone else’s emotions, that’s a high risk move. From experience, it’s a risk that can gut you before you even know you’re in trouble.

When emotions run the show, logic doesn’t stand a chance. A man’s house is too much to stake on feelings that can change overnight.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

If I were y’all, I’d just move closer like you’re doing, and stay committed without doing the marriage thing. You don’t have to marry to be together. I work with a lady who’s been with her dude for 30 years without getting married.

I get your point about not needing marriage, but for me it’s even simpler, I don’t bother with dating at all. I’ve been through enough to know women can be a distraction and a liability. Single life is peaceful. No drama, no risk, no bending over backwards just to end up blindsided later. I’ve got my career, my routine, and my freedom. That’s all I need.

The biggest mistake men make is thinking they have to be with someone. They don’t. Peace beats paperwork every time.

Originally Posted by Cheerio

Having watched too much Judge Judy over the years, I can say getting married is better than not when it comes to eventually possibly breaking up.

I’ve been divorced twice. Marriage doesn’t protect men, it drains them. Women file most divorces, and the courts lean their way. Assets, alimony, and a man’s peace of mind go right out the window. So no, staying unmarried is better for the guy, hands down. At least he keeps what’s his without the state getting involved.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

LOL I was just trying to get clarity on why that makes sense. I just notice patterns how chicks will make decisions in relationships where they end up with the upper hand. It’s just a pattern I’ve observed even in when they choose a partner. Most dudes seem to fall for the same okey-doke every time.

I haven’t heard very positive things about him. He’s given some negative commentary in the past about George Floyd that I didn’t like. He isn’t any more Christian than the Klan and David Duke claim to be.

Yep. He’s part of the MAGA movement and I know what that’s about. Following Trump while claiming Christ is like eating McDonald’s every day and bragging about clean living.

Originally Posted by Zach

I think Phrozen’s on to something here, and I say that as someone who’s lived through it twice. One of the things I’ve learned is that when women detach emotionally, they’re already halfway gone. You usually don’t see it coming because on the surface, everything seems fine. But once that emotional switch flips, it’s over, she’s not working her way back, she’s working her way out. That’s why the stats are what they are. Women file for the majority of divorces, and it’s not usually because of abuse, it’s because they weren’t happy.

And that’s the scary part. You can be faithful, help with bills, do everything you think is right, and still wake up one day blindsided by papers you didn’t expect. To gamble a man’s home, security, and future on the stability of someone else’s emotions, that’s a high risk move. From experience, it’s a risk that can gut you before you even know you’re in trouble.

You’ve lived divorce twice, and I’m sorry you had to go through that, honestly. But the fact you’ve been divorced twice doesn’t make you the authority on women, it just makes you the authority on the two you chose.