What do you feel like saying, right now?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

How so?

They’re like similar to AI spambots, but in a biological way. So kind of like the way I remember John explaining it to me when he was talking about what slows Greekchat down? So, like a virus, a spambot doesn’t have a mind of its own, it doesn’t run independently, and it doesn’t create anything new. It just sits there as an inactive line of code, until it finds a system to exploit. The moment it gets access to a server or an email chain, it takes over, copying itself and spreading, just like a virus infecting a host. But would anyone call an AI spambot alive? No, because it doesn’t think, it doesn’t adapt without external programming, and it can’t function without something to latch onto.

So, are viruses alive? Only in the same way that spambots are, like, by causing problems, replicating uncontrollably, and making everyone’s life a little more miserable. I mean, it’s not like they run the show, they just hijack the system. And just like how good cybersecurity can stop spambots, good vaccines and hygiene can keep viruses in check. But calling them alive (like some people do) is giving them way too much credit.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

It hasn’t even been a week yet LOL. But here’s to hope.

Fingers crossed.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

LMAO! What’d the messages say? Which dating site was it?

It was eharmony. I saw that I was getting messages but I couldn’t view them unless I paid for membership and I was NOT doing that. So, I don’t know what the messages said. I was just assuming they were cheesy pickup lines. Plus, at the time, I had already formed an online friendship with my now hubby, and that was free. I like free. I mean, you know the whole thing about how that went, lol. I eventually screenshot our back and forth messages from back then and put them in my scrapbook. I still read them and laugh, or when I want to call him out on something he says he didn’t say. Messages don’t lie.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Besides getting jelly filled, nasty ass, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, what’s everybody got planned for Valentine’s Day?

My husband and I took the day off and are pretending we live in a kid-free world for a few hours. So far, we’ve actually had coffee without interruption, and I swear it feels like a luxury. We’re just trying to slow time down before school lets out and chaos resumes, lol.

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

I see so many clips of videos on social media of people acting crazy about dating, relationships, marriage and kids that I cannot believe those are their opinions. Men shaming women for having a higher body count than they want, and women shaming men for not having a high-paying job in the six to seven figures. Both have very unrealistic standards for a date's physical appearance in stereotypical ways.

I never went to bars, I never hit on women at clubs, every woman I dated were friends or people I met through social groups or shared activities. Plenty of them had issues, of which I'm also not innocent of. But they were much more down to earth than the people you see all over social media perpetuating these realities until they manifest in other's lives.

Yep. I mean, based on what I hear at work from others, social media makes dating seem like a game where everyone has unrealistic standards, but in reality, most people just want a real connection. Know what I mean?

Oh, and I love that you met people naturally, because emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and character matter just as much as physical attraction. Social media thrives on drama, not reality. I mean, honestly? Love isn’t a transaction, it’s built on connection, not checklists.

I’m not sure if I’ve asked you or not, but how did you and your wife meet?

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

It was eharmony. I saw that I was getting messages but I couldn’t view them unless I paid for membership and I was NOT doing that. So, I don’t know what the messages said. I was just assuming they were cheesy pickup lines. Plus, at the time, I had already formed an online friendship with my now hubby, and that was free. I like free. I mean, you know the whole thing about how that went, lol. I eventually screenshot our back and forth messages from back then and put them in my scrapbook. I still read them and laugh, or when I want to call him out on something he says he didn’t say. Messages don’t lie.

Lmao @ free. Yeah, it was free as hell. You ended up with a good one, for free. The old saying goes “You get what you pay for.” Usually if something is free, the lasting quality is going to be that way too. That didn’t apply in y’all’s case Lol.

I heard eharmony was pretty chill back then. It’s sites like Plenty of Fish and Tender where dudes holler at chicks for one thing.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

My husband and I took the day off and are pretending we live in a kid-free world for a few hours. So far, we’ve actually had coffee without interruption, and I swear it feels like a luxury. We’re just trying to slow time down before school lets out and chaos resumes, lol.

I’ll bet that coffee isn’t the only thing happening without interruption today, while school is still in session LOL!

[agzg]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

As soon as I opened up the link, I had a WTF moment at dude’s face. Y’all see his face? Dude is pissed LOL! He had to have had some bad experiences with women which is his fault because he chose them. Thanks for sharing this with me, agzg. I learned something new.

I'd say you're welcome but I'm sorry that dude exists. He's a real fuggo, inside and out.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Besides getting jelly filled, nasty ass, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, what’s everybody got planned for Valentine’s Day?

Big plans over here, I'm taking over bedtime for my husband so he can do meetings with some of his employees in another country. I'm considering throwing out our dinner plans (just a normal instant pot meal) for something fancier, I haven't decided. He got me some of my favorite candy plus an apron I've been eyeballing (I've taken up sourdough baking recently), and I got him a caliper for his 3-D printer. We're on year 19 together and it shows LOL.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

My husband and I took the day off and are pretending we live in a kid-free world for a few hours. So far, we’ve actually had coffee without interruption, and I swear it feels like a luxury. We’re just trying to slow time down before school lets out and chaos resumes, lol.

The dream. We're gonna do this in March when both work and family obligations slow down. We're also taking the whole family to an indoor water park to blow off some steam.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by agzg

I'd say you're welcome but I'm sorry that dude exists. He's a real fuggo, inside and out.

I agree. What’s even crazier is there’s a bunch of dudes out here like him. Always playing the blame game instead of holding themselves accountable for their own actions.

Originally Posted by agzg

Big plans over here, I'm taking over bedtime for my husband so he can do meetings with some of his employees in another country. I'm considering throwing out our dinner plans (just a normal instant pot meal) for something fancier, I haven't decided. He got me some of my favorite candy plus an apron I've been eyeballing (I've taken up sourdough baking recently), and I got him a caliper for his 3-D printer. We're on year 19 together and it shows LOL.

Y’all got it goin on, agzg. That’s good stuff. 19 years is a very long time. That’s compatibility right there.

[Phrozen Sands]

Alright y’all, so here’s the verdict. My friend I told y’all about who was giving her dude a Valentine’s gift that included a positive paternity test…. I hadn’t heard from her so I text her to see if dude was happy. She replied back and said he was surprised but wasn’t expecting it, and he didn’t seem happy at all. I told her I knew this was going to happen with his reaction. She said they went out to eat for the holiday and he was pretty quiet the whole time. She said he wasn’t present. His body was but his mind wasn’t there. When she asked him why he wasn’t happy, she told me he just said he doesn’t think they’re ready for this right now. She said he only ate a few bites of his food. What’d y’all think? I told you I’d keep y’all posted. I figured this would be the outcome though.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Lmao @ free. Yeah, it was free as hell. You ended up with a good one, for free. The old saying goes “You get what you pay for.” Usually if something is free, the lasting quality is going to be that way too. That didn’t apply in y’all’s case Lol.

lol
Hilarious! So true. I never looked at it from that angle. Ya know, if they ever make a Hall of Fame for husbands, mine’s getting a lifetime achievement award.

Originally Posted by agzg

The dream. We're gonna do this in March when both work and family obligations slow down. We're also taking the whole family to an indoor water park to blow off some steam.

That sounds like SO much fun! Sounds like you two had a wonderful Valentine’s Day, too. And yes, Phrozen Sands is right, 19 years is a long time. That’s awesome, agzg.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Alright y’all, so here’s the verdict. My friend I told y’all about who was giving her dude a Valentine’s gift that included a positive paternity test…. I hadn’t heard from her so I text her to see if dude was happy. She replied back and said he was surprised but wasn’t expecting it, and he didn’t seem happy at all. I told her I knew this was going to happen with his reaction. She said they went out to eat for the holiday and he was pretty quiet the whole time. She said he wasn’t present. His body was but his mind wasn’t there. When she asked him why he wasn’t happy, she told me he just said he doesn’t think they’re ready for this right now. She said he only ate a few bites of his food. What’d y’all think? I told you I’d keep y’all posted. I figured this would be the outcome though.

Wow! That’s so sad. I mean, I honestly feel so bad for them. That’s such a huge, life-changing thing to find out in such a shocking way. I can’t imagine how overwhelming that must have been, especially if he wasn’t expecting it at all. I hope they can get through it together.

[Phrozen Sands]

I stayed on the phone with this woman until 2am this morning LOL. The conversation was great. We started talking about this 4B movement shit. I brought it up because I hate these kind of dumbass movements. I wanted to see where she stands with it. I was basically trying to see if she’s a feminist. She’s mad cool because she was saying while she doesn’t follow the movement, she can understand why some women follow it. Not to get on the battle of the sexes conversation but I asked her who does she think would hold out longer if all men and all women practiced this movement to counter each other? She said men would blink first because we love sex. She said men would last 20 minutes Lmao!

What’s y’all’s take on it? Be respectful.

[Zach]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I stayed on the phone with this woman until 2am this morning LOL. The conversation was great. We started talking about this 4B movement shit. I brought it up because I hate these kind of dumbass movements. I wanted to see where she stands with it. I was basically trying to see if she’s a feminist. She’s mad cool because she was saying while she doesn’t follow the movement, she can understand why some women follow it. Not to get on the battle of the sexes conversation but I asked her who does she think would hold out longer if all men and all women practiced this movement to counter each other? She said men would blink first because we love sex. She said men would last 20 minutes Lmao!

What’s y’all’s take on it? Be respectful.

If that happened, the economy would begin to collapse first before either sex caved.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I stayed on the phone with this woman until 2am this morning LOL. The conversation was great. We started talking about this 4B movement shit. I brought it up because I hate these kind of dumbass movements. I wanted to see where she stands with it. I was basically trying to see if she’s a feminist. She’s mad cool because she was saying while she doesn’t follow the movement, she can understand why some women follow it. Not to get on the battle of the sexes conversation but I asked her who does she think would hold out longer if all men and all women practiced this movement to counter each other? She said men would blink first because we love sex. She said men would last 20 minutes Lmao!

What’s y’all’s take on it? Be respectful.

I know you guys were having playful conversation, but I remember reading an article that this is somewhat happening in countries like Japan and South Korea? Like, they’re having economic stagnation because of it?

[cheerfulgreek]

I’m hearing our national anthem got booed by Canadians at a hockey game. Good. This is what happens when a piece of sh*t is once again voted in as “President”. That’s what ya wanted and that’s what ya got. Good for them!

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by Zach

If that happened, the economy would begin to collapse first before either sex caved.

How so?

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I know you guys were having playful conversation, but I remember reading an article that this is somewhat happening in countries like Japan and South Korea? Like, they’re having economic stagnation because of it?

I haven’t heard that one. Where’d you see that at?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

And don’t even get me started on relationships today. It’s like people have replaced genuine connection with performative nonsense for likes and validation. Loyalty is rare, emotional maturity is even rarer, and everything feels like a game no one actually wins. Honestly, I’m just SO glad I’m not in the dating pool anymore, because based on what I hear my techs talk about, it seems more like a toxic swamp at this point.

Do you remember all of my stories?? LOL

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Besides getting jelly filled, nasty ass, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, what’s everybody got planned for Valentine’s Day?

We had a great weekend. I was originally going to drive out Saturday but we had a winter storm warning for Saturday so I drove out there Friday night. I picked up some great desserts from a place called Tony Cannoli and he cooked us steaks. I introduced him to my favorite chocolate wine. We exchanged gifts- I gave him a gift certificate so he could pick out a candlelight concert to attend. I am NOT engaged- he gave me a beautiful lapis lazuli stone ring, a beautiful locket that we agreed we would put a picture of us from one of my sorority formals into, and a really cute candle that smells like vanilla and looks like a tree trunk/branches with "My Name + His Name" carved into it. So cute It was the first time in ages we didn't have to get up early so we talked until 3 am before we finally fell asleep. Saturday, we were meeting his mom and sister in East Lansing for dinner and to see MJ the Musical at Wharton Center. We drove home in an ice storm and that was pretty anxiety inducing. There was icy fog that kept icing over the windshield. We had the heat turned way up and blowing on the windshield and he was using a lot of washer fluid to keep the ice from building up and blocking his vision. We had to stop a couple times to refill his washer fluid. It was nerve wracking.

We didn't get back to his house until almost midnight.I woke up this morning and got ready to leave. I remote started my car because it had snow on it and then the ice from the night before and then more snow. He came to see how I was doing with getting ready to go and to ask if he could help with anything. I asked him to pack my keto snacks from the fridge and told him I remote started the car so it could start to melt. He opened the blinds and showed me that my car was already cleaned off. THAT is what I love about this man. That was so incredibly thoughtful. He's so kind to me. I had to time my drive home between the major snow squalls and thankfully my drive home was uneventful.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I stayed on the phone with this woman until 2am this morning LOL. The conversation was great. We started talking about this 4B movement shit. I brought it up because I hate these kind of dumbass movements. I wanted to see where she stands with it. I was basically trying to see if she’s a feminist. She’s mad cool because she was saying while she doesn’t follow the movement, she can understand why some women follow it. Not to get on the battle of the sexes conversation but I asked her who does she think would hold out longer if all men and all women practiced this movement to counter each other? She said men would blink first because we love sex. She said men would last 20 minutes Lmao!

What’s y’all’s take on it? Be respectful.

I think it's just about the only way to get the attention of the men who think women shouldn't have bodily autonomy.

P.S. He also had a dozen roses delivered to me on Wednesday so I could enjoy them since he knew I'd be gone for the weekend with him.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

What’d y’all think? I told you I’d keep y’all posted. I figured this would be the outcome though.

I can't say I'm surprised. She's had time to process and come to terms with what happened, but this was an immense surprise for him. If they decided to keep the child, it will mean a whole lot of lifestyle changes and stress for both of them.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Oh, and I love that you met people naturally, because emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and character matter just as much as physical attraction. Social media thrives on drama, not reality. I mean, honestly? Love isn’t a transaction, it’s built on connection, not checklists.

I’m not sure if I’ve asked you or not, but how did you and your wife meet?

I've always thought that physical attraction can open a door, but a person's personality and character can make you stay in the room. That's why most of the people I see online screaming about dating politics and what a person should or shouldn't do look like caricatures to me.

We met in the US while she was on a homestay. I eventually moved in the same house as her, and we dated after a month or so of being in the same house/friends for a few months.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by AGDee

We had a great weekend. I was originally going to drive out Saturday but we had a winter storm warning for Saturday so I drove out there Friday night. I picked up some great desserts from a place called Tony Cannoli and he cooked us steaks. I introduced him to my favorite chocolate wine. We exchanged gifts- I gave him a gift certificate so he could pick out a candlelight concert to attend. I am NOT engaged- he gave me a beautiful lapis lazuli stone ring, a beautiful locket that we agreed we would put a picture of us from one of my sorority formals into, and a really cute candle that smells like vanilla and looks like a tree trunk/branches with "My Name + His Name" carved into it. So cute It was the first time in ages we didn't have to get up early so we talked until 3 am before we finally fell asleep. Saturday, we were meeting his mom and sister in East Lansing for dinner and to see MJ the Musical at Wharton Center. We drove home in an ice storm and that was pretty anxiety inducing. There was icy fog that kept icing over the windshield. We had the heat turned way up and blowing on the windshield and he was using a lot of washer fluid to keep the ice from building up and blocking his vision. We had to stop a couple times to refill his washer fluid. It was nerve wracking.

We didn't get back to his house until almost midnight.I woke up this morning and got ready to leave. I remote started my car because it had snow on it and then the ice from the night before and then more snow. He came to see how I was doing with getting ready to go and to ask if he could help with anything. I asked him to pack my keto snacks from the fridge and told him I remote started the car so it could start to melt. He opened the blinds and showed me that my car was already cleaned off. THAT is what I love about this man. That was so incredibly thoughtful. He's so kind to me. I had to time my drive home between the major snow squalls and thankfully my drive home was uneventful.



I think it's just about the only way to get the attention of the men who think women shouldn't have bodily autonomy.

P.S. He also had a dozen roses delivered to me on Wednesday so I could enjoy them since he knew I'd be gone for the weekend with him.

Would y’all just go on ahead and get married LOL!

This is good stuff, AGDee. I’m glad y’all enjoyed each other this holiday season. Do y’all get together every weekend or during the week too?

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

I can't say I'm surprised. She's had time to process and come to terms with what happened, but this was an immense surprise for him. If they decided to keep the child, it will mean a whole lot of lifestyle changes and stress for both of them.
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I don’t know dude, but based on what she’s been telling me, I don’t think he wants that baby anymore than I want one. They’ve only been together two years. I think that dude is cool with just a relationship so he can get consistent ass. That what that’s about.

[Phrozen Sands]

Those chicks aren’t getting dudes attention because they’ll just go to other chicks. And even those chicks, dudes that are smooth talkers can still get them to give in. There’s all kinds of separation movements going on now. Y’all ever heard of Monk Mode?