Can't decide- big dilemma, going through Recruitment

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Originally Posted by llrushee

I am definitely going to pref night... it's just I'm worried that I'll go to bid day, spend time with them and don't click at all. I will definitely/most likely re-rush as a junior, but at the same time I don't know if that is looked down upon. I have always wanted to be in greek life for the sisterhood, leadership, networking, philanthropies, the endless service opportunities, etc.

My suggestion would be to take your bid and work your butt off through the entire new member period. Go to everything you can and get to know as many people in your NM class and your chapter as you can. Stick with it through the entire NM period. Try looking at all of the good things that you can think of about the chapter.

BTW, I never "clicked" with my whole chapter. I did "click" with individual women. I'm a socially awkward penquin and an introvert. I don't walk into groups and just feel like I'm home. I have to work at it. If you haven't had that experience, working at it might feel strange to you. I have found, though, that if you show up consistently, work on group projects consistently, and try to be a positive member of the group, you will find your way "home." Sometimes I've been "home," before I even knew I was "home."

You should also know that every chapter for every sorority is different. If you are looking at a lifetime membership experience, you will find lots of different women as an alumnae. I recently joined a CAB for a new chapter of KD -- the CAB is made up of alums from different chapters. Most of us are local, but we're still really different. The engineers and science majors from MST (me!) are very "laid back in Levis." The alums from SLU seem like very young executive types. The alums from Mizzou are pretty fabulous -one is a fashion designer and one is in TV as an editor. All very different but all very cool women who it is my privilege to work with. Am I a little more comfortable with the MST alums? Yeah. We have a little more in common. We "click." I really enjoy knowing all of the women from all of the groups, though. It's a privilege.