Can't decide- big dilemma, going through Recruitment

[KDCat]

Take a deep breath.

You are at an SEC school. I assume that the chapter is huge. If that is true, you WILL meet women who you click with at any chapter. You just haven't done it yet. Part of the NM process is finding the women with whom you click in the chapter.

As far as this particular chapter goes, look at them objectively. If they are a decent chapter, and you want to be Greek, this is your best chance. COB is a gamble. You said there are "great girls" in this chapter. That's a good sign.

I understand that you feel slightly uncomfortable at this chapter. I wouldn't worry about it too much. The "I feel at home" during formal rush is an illusion. People work really hard to make that illusion happen and some chapters are better at it than others. It's often a luck of the draw thing which depends heavily on whether you meet a random woman who happens to share your completely random obsession with X (sushi, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Olympic water polo, whatever). After recruitment, the unicorns pooping rainbows go away and every single NM has to work to find her place in a chapter, and every single chapter has to work to fit the NMs into the chapter. It's not instant BFFS no matter what it feels like during rush.

Formal rush is like dating. There's a lot of romantic energy at the beginning, but long term relationships take more than that. They take work and committment and shared values and shared experiences. New relationship energy (the romantic part) goes away.

Sometimes the very romantic dreamboat isn't the one for you. Sometimes he's a jerk. Sometimes the quiet ones grow on you and are the best possible partner.