Dorm Shower...is that a thing now?

[ZTAngel]

A friend of mine was married recently. She basically expected that everyone would throw her a bunch of showers. This included an engagement party/shower, a couple's shower, bridal shower and bachelorette shower. Yes, all four. Ridiculous. I got roped into helping plan and pay for the engagement shower. Since I was her only bridesmaid who lives in the same state as her, I planned and paid for her bridal shower at my house. Gifts from me were expected for every shower on top of it. I never received a thank you for her for the engagement shower. Not verbal nor a written thank you. I received a voicemail for the bridal shower thanking me and she mumbled something about owing me a hostess gift (which she never ended up getting me). Additionally, I never received a written thank you for that either. That's the thing that gets me the most about showers. People who do not thank every person who gave them a gift. I also hate when the thank you notes arrive months after the gathering. I made sure to send my thank you notes out within a week after my bridal shower and my baby shower. I figure that if people take the time to get me a gift that I could take a few minutes out of my day to write a thank you for it. Needless to say, I'm not quite as close with this friend anymore. I just couldn't get past the tackiness of the whole situation.