Dorm Shower...is that a thing now?

[WCsweet<3]

I've never heard of a dorm shower. Gifts aren't necessarily given at grad parties either and the gifts that are given were gift cards and smaller checks. I wrinkle my nose at the idea of dorm showers.

Somewhat on subject, does one bring a gift to a bachelorette party? I'm going to one next weekend and then a shower for the couple the weekend after.

On a side note: I also thought this was about showers in a dorm and was a little worried by what I might find in this thread. Something about parties in dorm showers or something similar.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Somewhat on subject, does one bring a gift to a bachelorette party? I'm going to one next weekend and then a shower for the couple the weekend after.

Something off-color and tongue-in-cheek...wedding night gag gifts.

[BraveMaroon]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

Something off-color and tongue-in-cheek...wedding night gag gifts.

Heh, tongue. Heh.


And sorry for the misleading "Shower" title. Couldn't think of a better way to put it.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

Heh, tongue. Heh.


And sorry for the misleading "Shower" title. Couldn't think of a better way to put it.

Makes perfect sense if you think about it. Since I had never heard of it, my mind went to a more familiar idea.

[Katmandu]

Gift grab. I don't care how "nice" someone is, it is an odd scenario. I have also noticed lately that moms, sisters and grandmas are hosting showers for the Bride/Mama to be. I thought that was tacky too, but some friends have made no bones about it..."giving a shower for darling , hope you can make it!"

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

ETA: Is it bad that when I read the thread title I was concerned because I thought "um, what dorms DON'T have showers?". Hey, it's Monday...

I was thinking something dirty, for some reason. I don't know what.. but yea..

Originally Posted by adpiucf

No tackier than a baby shower or a bridal shower.

A baby shower, I can understand. There is SO much to buy, and the entire ordeal is very expensive and overwhelming. Plus, the expenses obviously don't stop once the baby is born. It's nice to help out a family member or friend in that case. I say this, and I don't even want anything to do with kids!

IMO, bridal showers are dumb. I hate the idea that I have to buy someone a wedding gift at the shower, and then another gift for the wedding. To me, you should only get one gift from me. That's why I try to avoid bridal showers like the plague!

Originally Posted by IndianaSigKap

//swerve//

I was just ranting about this to a sorority sister on Saturday night. I received a baby shower invitation from a distant relative who is having her third child in less than 6 years. She has one of each already, so she does not need gender specific items nor infant most infant needs other than diapers. I am tired of this entitlement of "I am having a baby buy me things". Showers were intended to help first time parents out by giving them a head start on setting up the nursery.

And while I am ranting, full blown bridal showers for third time brides. Really? You didn't get enough items during the first two marriages? I have no problem with an engagement party to celebrate the couple or a bachelorette party to give the bride one last wild night out, but having a bridal shower? Again, bridal showers were designed to help newly married couples set up households with essentials. If you have been married multiple times, and your spouse to be has too, then you both already have households to merge.

//back into the lane

Yes! My stepdad's nephew has been married 3 times! The last woman he married comes from money, but it was her first time getting married, so she wanted the whole big production. My mom, of course, was pissed because now they had to spend another few hundred dollars on another shower gift and another wedding gift.. not to mention all the other added expenses that come with attending a wedding.


Two other gift/money grabs that I discovered when I went to school in PA that I absolutely hate: Stag 'n drags and dollar dances.

For those who don't know, a stag 'n drag (which I originally thought was a party that you go to alone and drag someone home with you.. ) is a party prior to the wedding. The couple invites anyone and everyone they know (sometimes even people who aren't invited to the wedding), there's a cover - usually $15-25 - and you get to play games, drink, eat, and socialize. The point is to raise money for the wedding.

Dollar dances occur at the wedding. At what seems like the most imopportune time, the fun music stops, slow music is played, and people line up to pay a dollar to dance with either the bride or the groom. Again, the money is used toward the wedding or the honeymoon.

I was once at a wedding where the dollar dance lasted 45 minutes. It was terrible.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

IMO, bridal showers are dumb. I hate the idea that I have to buy someone a wedding gift at the shower, and then another gift for the wedding. To me, you should only get one gift from me. That's why I try to avoid bridal showers like the plague!

Bridal showers used to be much more specific - a kitchen shower, a linen shower, etc. Usually gifts that were MUCH less expensive than a wedding gift. Now everything has kind of gotten mushed together and that's why people's hides are chapped at having to buy a $60 deviled egg plate for the shower.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by Katmandu

Gift grab. I don't care how "nice" someone is, it is an odd scenario. I have also noticed lately that moms, sisters and grandmas are hosting showers for the Bride/Mama to be. I thought that was tacky too, but some friends have made no bones about it..."giving a shower for darling , hope you can make it!"

Come to think of it--the last two baby showers I attended were hosted by the families! These people are from Texas, too--they should know better! The parents in the first case actually registered for Burberry clothing for a baby. Wtf.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

The parents in the first case actually registered for Burberry clothing for a baby. Wtf.

I can just imagine the looks on their faces the first time the baby has a diaper blowout while wearing said Burberry clothing!

I was once in a Gucci store where there was a Gucci baby carrier and shoes on display. No price tag (i.e., if you have to ask, you can't afford it). Again, can you imagine the parents' reaction when the baby has a diaper blowout while in that thing?

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[aephi alum]

The first thing that popped into my mind when I saw the title of this thread was my school's "Freshman Shower Night" tradition. On the night before the first freshman physics exam, the sophomores and up in each living group would seek out the freshmen on the floor and toss them, fully clothed, into the shower. (I planned ahead and wore a bathing suit. As a result, I was tossed into a COLD shower. LOL!)

Anyway - a "dorm shower", to me, is just a gift grab. AFAIC, the tradition of a bridal shower for a first-time bride and a baby shower for a first-time mom is fine - you need stuff to set up your new household and you need things for the baby, respectively. But bridal showers for second-time brides, and baby showers for second and subsequent babies, are tacky IMO. A little get-together is plenty - and if people want to bring gifts, that's their choice. Same for a dorm shower - have a graduation party, and if people want to bring gifts that will be useful in dorm life (like, say, a shower caddy or memo board), that's their choice.

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Somewhat on subject, does one bring a gift to a bachelorette party? I'm going to one next weekend and then a shower for the couple the weekend after.

In one of my more embarrassing moments, at my pledge daughter's bachelorette party, I showed up with a box full of naughties, stuff I considered de rigueur for a bachelorette, and everyone else showed up with gifts more appropriately given at a Sunday afternoon tea. So me, the prude of the universe looked like a complete perv. AWESOME. KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!!!

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

In one of my more embarrassing moments, at my pledge daughter's bachelorette party, I showed up with a box full of naughties, stuff I considered de rigueur for a bachelorette, and everyone else showed up with gifts more appropriately given at a Sunday afternoon tea. So me, the prude of the universe looked like a complete perv. AWESOME. KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!!!

This is what I'm worried about. I know the groom better than the bride. In fact I've never hung out with the bride outside of our group/without the groom. I don't know any of the other people attending. I was actually surprised that I was invited in the first place.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

This is what I'm worried about. I know the groom better than the bride. In fact I've never hung out with the bride outside of our group/without the groom. I don't know any of the other people attending. I was actually surprised that I was invited in the first place.

There's a really funny, cute book called "Porn for Women" that would be perfect. It's a picture book with a photo of a cute guy on each page and a speech bubble, with the guys saying things like, "I think we better leave early for the craft fair this Sunday. It might be extra busy with the Super Bowl on."

It's cute because it's classy, yet fits with the theme. I saw on Barnes and Noble that there's also a Porn for Brides, by the same publisher. It looks cute, too.

[Still BLUTANG]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

There's a really funny, cute book called "Porn for Women" that would be perfect. It's a picture book with a photo of a cute guy on each page and a speech bubble, with the guys saying things like, "I think we better leave early for the craft fair this Sunday. It might be extra busy with the Super Bowl on."

It's cute because it's classy, yet fits with the theme. I saw on Barnes and Noble that there's also a Porn for Brides, by the same publisher. It looks cute, too.

evey year i look forward to the new PFW calendar.