need advice for breaking up before college

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Okay, I'm disagreeing with the others who have posted (even though I'm inclined generally to trust advice from those posters), but I'd say yes, go ahead and break up. From what you've said, you really already have broken up, both by your agreement and in your mind -- you're just delaying the effective date of the break-up. That puts you in a strange and uncomfortable limbo where you've broken up in reality but haven't broken up officially. Sometimes you just have to pull the scab off.

Stay friends if you can, not "just in case" but because you want to stay friends. But if you've already made the decision together to break up, you're not doing each other any favors by putting it off.

For what it's worth, I'm a guy.

I agree completely. This also gives you both time to recover before school starts rather than going in weepy messes (maybe more of a problem in her case but you never know.)