Disaffiliation

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Originally Posted by bas

I have been a part of my sorority for the past 2 years. I commute and work a lot, so I have not been able to attend every single thing we have had going on, however I have been involved, definitely. Why do I want to disaffiliate? I gave it my best try, I just didn't really click with them.

>> Is this the reaspon?

My best friend in there is leaving soon also.

>> Or is it really this?

It was fun at first but now it just seems like an obligation.

>> How do you think your org planned and paid for this fun stuff? Work. All of the "fun" stuff only happened because people worked to make it so. There's a cost to everything. It's like getting a puppy and then dumping him because he's not just all fluff and giggles anymore.

It's not just me, about 60 women have disaffiliated in the past 5-10 years alone. That's a lot.

>> So if everyone else jumped off a bridge...

I am one of few who commutes and has a job and a difficult major. Sorry, I am pre-med and work my butt off a little harder than a fashion major (no offense, I know everyone works for grades).

>> Do you think that "just anyone" can be a fashion designer? Sure, they may not be saving lives (well, philanthropically-minded designers might), but it doesn't mean that a fashion major's walk is easier than yours.

I don't go to many parties or the greek bars, and I miss a few co-sponsorships. That does not give newer sisters the right to disrespect me the way they do.

>> I thought they did away with this mindset in the 90s? What does "respect" from the "newer sisters" look like to you?

Don't accuse me of being an ungrateful, lazy sister when you are on the phone screaming at your mom because she can't give you $600 overnight for your rent when you don't have a job.

>> Judgmental, much?

Also, our treasurer sucks. She keeps overcharging me on dues and when I tell our secretary she does nothing.

>> Numbers are a pretty straightforward thing. Ask to see the books and get a copy of your check or statement from your bank if you paid electronically.

We had a problem with sisters posting things on those anonymous college fb's calling a sister a jezebel (you know what word I mean) and a b****. We had a problem with sisters talking to the new members the day after they accepted their bids. They trash talked SO many sisters that a fraternity overheard it and thought it was so nasty they came to our exec board for it.

>> ??

Now I don't expect sunshine and rainbows and BFF hearts evrywhere. But I am SO unhappy. I am having anxiety attacks at this point that are just consuming. I wish it was different because I really like the alumni but I can't wait another year until I graduate.

So I guess I am asking for opinions. Does disaffiliation seem justified?

>>Nobody else can answer that for you, especially a bunch of strangers on the internet.

I won't name my sorority out of decency.

>>You already missed the boat on this one.

Seriously, though, do what you feel is best for you. It sounds like you have a lot of "reasons". We can't tell you what to do. Talk to your parents, a friend, a therapist.