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Originally Posted by summer_gphib
Your inability to take criticism is no doubt one of the problems.
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I've seen this with many collegians. They shut themselves off from their sorority because of their personal lives (it could be anything, really, from true unforeseen circumstances to someone looking at them cross-eyed), and then start nitpicking at the sorority as being the real source of their problems. And they stop going to social events, put in the bare minimum with a scowl on their faces and a "don't talk to me attitude," and then get angry that no one is calling them or trying to be their friend. They say that their chapter has changed, and they no longer want to be a part of it (but "I still really love what XYZ stands for.").
On GC, a lot of people try to encourage members to stick it out and make an effort when they are unhappy. But if you are making yourself so miserable that you've poisoned yourself against your own sorority, you are not doing anyone a favor by sticking around. What is the point of going inactive until you graduate if you hate your sorority so much?
In my chapter, a truly unforeseen financial hardship or medical emergency would grant a person a school year or semester of financial inactivity. This was granted on a case by case basis, and this was policy about 15 years ago. After that period of inactivity (the member did not come to meetings, attend socials, pay dues, etc.), the member had to return to the chapter (or, if she was graduating, she would go alumna and attend our Jewel Degree alumnae ceremony). If she did not, then she had to cancel her membership.
We always say you get out what you put in. If you are only putting in a bad attitude, you're going to get nothing. In OP's case, just cancel your membership. If you're living in your car because you don't want to go home to a bad environment, take that dues money and move into an apartment with some roommates. Your chapter doesn't know your situation and they really can't help you as individuals (and you don't seem to want to let them because you hate them). But many sororities offer scholarships, and my own chapter has emergency financial grants for collegians and alumnae in financial distress (they can't be used to pay dues, but they help pay for medical or living expenses in a true emergency). I'd worry about your personal situation right now and forget about your sorority.
Also, OP, what type of advice did you expect coming on a message board called Greek Chat? Do you think we are a bunch of disillusioned members or people who love our organizations and have stuck with them through thick and thin? I think you have a lot going on right now, and you can't see the forest for the trees. Stop lashing out at everyone as the source of your unhappiness and work on yourself. The world is not out to get you, so get over yourself and get the help you need and eliminate the bad distractions in your life. You're now an adult so start acting like one and take responsibility for your decisions.
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