Alabama Sorority Costs...Can anyone help?

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

You have no idea what you are talking about here or who you are talking about. Just keep that in mind.

Please keep in mind that I was speaking for my own chapter (as I noted). I would be embarrassed if one of our chapter advisors, for instance, represented us publicly in such a mean-spirited manner, even if via a seemingly anonymous screenname. This is just my opinion, of course.

As for who I am talking about – obviously I cannot read every previous post on this forum, but did check enough to know that she is not a member of my GLO at Bama. It appears that she was affiliated with a sorority that had dwindled so that it eventually folded (while I was in school there, in fact). I do remember the little house on the stadium-side corner – those girls surely could have used help from committed alums.

If she is active in the re-colonization of her chapter, or in other positions of importance within her GLO, then that’s lovely. Still, I can completely understand jll’s sentiment, considering the hurtful manner in which she was treated.

I think I may have a little insight on the behavior now, at least -- but thanks for the warning.

[UGAalum94]

I didn't think of it as a warning of anything. There's nothing bad to come, except maybe your embarrassment when you realize how far you are off about at lot of stuff in that comment.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I didn't think of it as a warning of anything. There's nothing bad to come, except maybe your embarrassment when you realize how far you are off about at lot of stuff in that comment.

If I have either the chapter or university wrong, then by all means correct my understanding.

Otherwise, I have responded to the behavior I witnessed on this thread, and what I observed regarding that chapter’s closure during my own time at UofA.

If this person is in a position of importance in her own organization, then she should be embarrassed, not I. I’m obviously not familiar with the culture of this forum, or with the meaning of foreboding insider comments regarding her identity, but who she is matters little. Bullying is bullying, and bystanders are bystanders, wherever it occurs.

Perhaps some who have been immersed in the culture of this forum have become desensitized to heckling and personal attacks, and don’t realize how this plays to newcomers and infrequent visitors.

And yes, I understand that pointing it out and advocating for the vulnerable party is not advisable in such a culture – it works much the same on a playground.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

If I have either the chapter or university wrong, then by all means correct my understanding.

Otherwise, I have responded to the behavior I witnessed on this thread, and what I observed regarding that chapter’s closure during my own time at UofA.

If this person is in a position of importance in her own organization, then she should be embarrassed, not I. I’m obviously not familiar with the culture of this forum, or with the meaning of foreboding insider comments regarding her identity, but who she is matters little. Bullying is bullying, and bystanders are bystanders, wherever it occurs.

Perhaps some who have been immersed in the culture of this forum have become desensitized to heckling and personal attacks, and don’t realize how this plays to newcomers and infrequent visitors.

And yes, I understand that pointing it out and advocating for the vulnerable party is not advisable in such a culture – it works much the same on a playground.

No one is bullying you or anyone else here. Get real. After you assumed that Titchou was not involved with her sorority, it was pointed out to you that you have no idea what her involvement or her background is. Was she a little harsh with the OP? Yes, but it wasn't directed to you, and the OP actually handled herself quite well.

I hope it all works out for the OP's daughter.

And as far as this:

I never witnessed a girl in that chapter being heckled, though if I had, I surely would have spoken up in her defense. I just stink at joining in and piling on with that sort of behavior.

if you say so.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

No one is bullying you or anyone else here. Get real. After you assumed that Titchou was not involved with her sorority, it was pointed out to you that you have no idea what her involvement or her background is. Was she a little harsh with the OP? Yes, but it wasn't directed to you, and the OP actually handled herself quite well.

I hope it all works out for the OP's daughter.

And as far as this:



if you say so.

Oh I never said I was bullied. My comments concern the ridicule and personal attacks directed to the OP, who did handle herself quite well, and who did herself correctly identify the behavior as bullying.

Though I have been responding to the pile-on since.

I did state that the hard-working chapter advisors in T-town are busy with the constructive tasks surrounding recruitment instead of heckling parents online. And I also stated that I was speaking for my own chapter.

Apparently, however, that assumption doesn't extend to Titchou, and she finds time for both.

So you are correct, amIblue. It's just kind of an odd point to feel correct about.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

Please keep in mind that I was speaking for my own chapter (as I noted). I would be embarrassed if one of our chapter advisors, for instance, represented us publicly in such a mean-spirited manner, even if via a seemingly anonymous screenname. This is just my opinion, of course.

As for who I am talking about – obviously I cannot read every previous post on this forum, but did check enough to know that she is not a member of my GLO at Bama. It appears that she was affiliated with a sorority that had dwindled so that it eventually folded (while I was in school there, in fact). I do remember the little house on the stadium-side corner – those girls surely could have used help from committed alums.

If she is active in the re-colonization of her chapter, or in other positions of importance within her GLO, then that’s lovely. Still, I can completely understand jll’s sentiment, considering the hurtful manner in which she was treated.

I think I may have a little insight on the behavior now, at least -- but thanks for the warning.

Pot, meet kettle.

[33girl]

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As for who I am talking about – obviously I cannot read every previous post on this forum, but did check enough to know that she is not a member of my GLO at Bama. It appears that she was affiliated with a sorority that had dwindled so that it eventually folded (while I was in school there, in fact). I do remember the little house on the stadium-side corner – those girls surely could have used help from committed alums.[/SIZE]

Maybe they could have also used help from the other sororities on campus not talking shit about them. (Which I'm assuming you did then since you're still doing it now.)

You really need to check yourself before you wreck yourself.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Maybe they could have also used help from the other sororities on campus not talking shit about them. (Which I'm assuming you did then since you're still doing it now.)

You really need to check yourself before you wreck yourself.

That's possible, 33girl. I don't know what caused the chapter to dwindle and close, though they had apparently been struggling for some time.

I never witnessed a girl in that chapter being heckled, though if I had, I surely would have spoken up in her defense. I just stink at joining in and piling on with that sort of behavior.