Alabama Sorority Costs...Can anyone help?

[UGAalum94]

I didn't think of it as a warning of anything. There's nothing bad to come, except maybe your embarrassment when you realize how far you are off about at lot of stuff in that comment.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I didn't think of it as a warning of anything. There's nothing bad to come, except maybe your embarrassment when you realize how far you are off about at lot of stuff in that comment.

If I have either the chapter or university wrong, then by all means correct my understanding.

Otherwise, I have responded to the behavior I witnessed on this thread, and what I observed regarding that chapter’s closure during my own time at UofA.

If this person is in a position of importance in her own organization, then she should be embarrassed, not I. I’m obviously not familiar with the culture of this forum, or with the meaning of foreboding insider comments regarding her identity, but who she is matters little. Bullying is bullying, and bystanders are bystanders, wherever it occurs.

Perhaps some who have been immersed in the culture of this forum have become desensitized to heckling and personal attacks, and don’t realize how this plays to newcomers and infrequent visitors.

And yes, I understand that pointing it out and advocating for the vulnerable party is not advisable in such a culture – it works much the same on a playground.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

If I have either the chapter or university wrong, then by all means correct my understanding.

Otherwise, I have responded to the behavior I witnessed on this thread, and what I observed regarding that chapter’s closure during my own time at UofA.

If this person is in a position of importance in her own organization, then she should be embarrassed, not I. I’m obviously not familiar with the culture of this forum, or with the meaning of foreboding insider comments regarding her identity, but who she is matters little. Bullying is bullying, and bystanders are bystanders, wherever it occurs.

Perhaps some who have been immersed in the culture of this forum have become desensitized to heckling and personal attacks, and don’t realize how this plays to newcomers and infrequent visitors.

And yes, I understand that pointing it out and advocating for the vulnerable party is not advisable in such a culture – it works much the same on a playground.

No one is bullying you or anyone else here. Get real. After you assumed that Titchou was not involved with her sorority, it was pointed out to you that you have no idea what her involvement or her background is. Was she a little harsh with the OP? Yes, but it wasn't directed to you, and the OP actually handled herself quite well.

I hope it all works out for the OP's daughter.

And as far as this:

I never witnessed a girl in that chapter being heckled, though if I had, I surely would have spoken up in her defense. I just stink at joining in and piling on with that sort of behavior.

if you say so.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

No one is bullying you or anyone else here. Get real. After you assumed that Titchou was not involved with her sorority, it was pointed out to you that you have no idea what her involvement or her background is. Was she a little harsh with the OP? Yes, but it wasn't directed to you, and the OP actually handled herself quite well.

I hope it all works out for the OP's daughter.

And as far as this:



if you say so.

Oh I never said I was bullied. My comments concern the ridicule and personal attacks directed to the OP, who did handle herself quite well, and who did herself correctly identify the behavior as bullying.

Though I have been responding to the pile-on since.

I did state that the hard-working chapter advisors in T-town are busy with the constructive tasks surrounding recruitment instead of heckling parents online. And I also stated that I was speaking for my own chapter.

Apparently, however, that assumption doesn't extend to Titchou, and she finds time for both.

So you are correct, amIblue. It's just kind of an odd point to feel correct about.