Received a blatant B-list invitation BY PHONE BY PROXY, what to do?

[ellebud]

You are correct in that no one is required to deal with offensive behavior just because they have been INVITED to the wedding. However, the minute you accept the invitation one is supposed to behave themselves....on both sides of the equation.

If the couple has a favorite charity and/or they are very wealthy and have requested no gifts, then you can make a donation in their honor. I sense these kids are just that...kids. And young couples need plates and coffee makers and wine glasses. I'm just saying that once you accept the invitation its kind of nice to go with the flow.

And I still stand by the fact that the OP has the opportunity to be the perfect daughter in law: appropriate and classy.

.....oh, and as a future mil (no dates set) I would be devastated if I wasn't invited to see my kids get married. No criteria on what or where. I am open to whatever they want to do...but I'd better be invited....and yes, I will sit quietly.