Mutual Selection in Formal Recruitment: Not So Mutual? For PNMs and Parents.

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Mutual selection means that both the chapter and the PNM approve of the relationship. It's as simple as that. It doesn't mean that every PNM gets her dream chapter or that the chapters get every PNM they want. No one can force the chapters to take PNMs they don't want, and no one can force PNMs to join chapters they don't want to join. Sometimes the chapters or PNMs aren't overly enthused with who they end up with, but it usually works out. When it doesn't, there is always the option to end the relationship before initiation (which is honestly easier for the NM to do than the chapter in my experience.)