Advice Please!

[AZTheta]

You probably want to delete one of these threads as you posted the same thing in two different forums.

ETA: here's what I posted in the other thread, and a moderator should be able to delete your other thread.

"Honestly, we cannot say. No crystal balls, no way to tell what the outcome will be; and no point in speculating on what already happened or what might happen in the future.

Only you know whether you should or shouldn't try; but I do encourage you to go through the process. Good luck!"

Reading some of your replies, I think that things might have gone south for you in your recruitment experiences when you truly didn't give the other chapters a chance. Case in point: the worst relationships I've ever had have been those which were based on "love at first sight". You loved a chapter and that love wasn't returned. But what was that based on? The best relationships have taken a long time to bloom.

And, if you read through enough threads on GC you'll understand that (a) chapters know what they're looking for and what's a good match for them (b) many, if not most, chapters are also quite skilled at recruiting and what attracted you in your "favorite" chapter likely appealed to many other PNMs as well (c) it is a mutual selection process, and there were other chapters extending you invitations (d) greekdee's advice was spot-on.

That said, please give the colony your very best shot. Go in with confidence and an open mind. Stop obsessing about this, because that will interfere and can provoke a lot of anxiety. There are colonies happening all over the US this fall; GOOD LUCK!