My brothers wedding

[IrishLake]

I've changed my mind about 40 times since I posted this. I talked to my husband, I talked to my mom... they both think I should back out simply because the dress will look godawful on me. My mom doesn't even think it'll look good on my sister, she's upset. Part of me wants to do it for my brother because I love him and I know he wants me to be a part of his big day. I feel like I'll be hurting his feelings if I back out. But at the same time... my pale, chunky ass is going to look horrible in this. But then my husband said if I back out, he's only going to step down if my brother asks him to. Then if FSiL finds a replacement bridesmaid they'll still have an equal number. Only if FSiL cant find someone else will he step down. Which bothered me at first, but now I'm thinking "sa-weet, he can take care of the kids all day doing wedding party stuff, and he can partner up with my sister!"

Sigh.... I'm still thinking.

[Munchkin03]

If your future sister-in-law is really as helpless as you've made her sound, then she might be following those crazy wedding magazine timelines to the T. If it says to have the bridesmaids' dresses ordered by month 8, and she's at month 8 now, she might be freaking out.

If you do decide to remain part of the wedding (which I would because this is important to your brother), then you could just let the bride know that you're larger than you will be at the wedding; with that in mind, you'd like to get fitted for the dress later. She might not know that David's has a lightning-fast turnaround, since I imagine that the magazines she's reading say that the dress will take 8-10 weeks to get back.

She's a young bride--and her reactions might be based more out of nervousness than a desire to be a "Bridezilla."

[PM_Mama00]

Originally Posted by IrishLake

I've changed my mind about 40 times since I posted this. I talked to my husband, I talked to my mom... they both think I should back out simply because the dress will look godawful on me. My mom doesn't even think it'll look good on my sister, she's upset. Part of me wants to do it for my brother because I love him and I know he wants me to be a part of his big day. I feel like I'll be hurting his feelings if I back out. But at the same time... my pale, chunky ass is going to look horrible in this. But then my husband said if I back out, he's only going to step down if my brother asks him to. Then if FSiL finds a replacement bridesmaid they'll still have an equal number. Only if FSiL cant find someone else will he step down. Which bothered me at first, but now I'm thinking "sa-weet, he can take care of the kids all day doing wedding party stuff, and he can partner up with my sister!"

Sigh.... I'm still thinking.

I'm a plus size girl. I wore a dress that is similar in style to a wedding a few weeks ago. I thought it looked horrible on me but I got compliments all night. You'll never know until you see it in person.

I loved one of the 3 dresses that my friend picked out for her wedding. I was really disappointed when I found out all the girls ended up picking the same dress.... that will probably look awful on me.... but I ordered it anyway. She's one of my very good friends and it doesn't matter what I look like on that day. Anyways, when I saw it in person I changed my mind. It's really cute and while the store didn't have my size to try on, I'm sure it'll look decent. Anything to make the bride happy!