"Taking someone else's spot"

[DubaiSis]

This all goes back to trying to get everyone involved to use as much of the approximately 120 minutes they have to get to know each other. The sororities need to make cuts but ideally will only cut the minimum number and the rushees should attend the maximum number because 120 minutes tops is a ridiculously short amount of money to make these decisions that cost thousands of dollars and a lifetime of friendships.

That being said, if a girl doesn't want to attend certain parties I guess she shouldn't be forced. I think she should, but it's her decision. So many girls do not go through the process with an open mind that giving that house another chance is really going to be a waste of everyone's time. I also would like to see some sort of "with regrets" system where a girl cuts a chapter or the chapter cuts a girl and later on down the process either side has an opening of sorts and can get back onto their list. So many girls have full schedules the 2nd day and get slammed on day 3. There may have been houses that wanted to see her again who she suddenly has space for. Is this too complicated for the computer to work out or for the people involved to understand?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

That being said, if a girl doesn't want to attend certain parties I guess she shouldn't be forced. I think she should, but it's her decision. So many girls do not go through the process with an open mind that giving that house another chance is really going to be a waste of everyone's time. I also would like to see some sort of "with regrets" system where a girl cuts a chapter or the chapter cuts a girl and later on down the process either side has an opening of sorts and can get back onto their list. So many girls have full schedules the 2nd day and get slammed on day 3. There may have been houses that wanted to see her again who she suddenly has space for. Is this too complicated for the computer to work out or for the people involved to understand?

It is really tough for a house to not have enough women at parties, and it can become obvious to other PNM's. I really don't think it is so horrible to spend half an hour at a chapter you are not interested in and be reasonably polite. Oh, and chapters talk to one another, believe me.

There is nothing complicated about programming the software to allow "re-invites" for women who do not have the maximum number of parties. The issue, however, is that chapters don't want to look desperate by inviting women to round 3 who weren't at round 2. I have seen it happen, on occasion, when there was a legitimate mistake*, but if all chapters are following RFM, it shouldn't be that necessary.

*NOT A COMPUTER ERROR. A HUMAN BEING mixing up two PNM's with the same name.