"Taking someone else's spot"

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Nobody has brought up the other side of the equation, though.

Under RFM, chapters are also STRONGLY ENCOURAGED to issue the number of invites allowed them under RFM. If chapters under-invite, I believe the GL office is supposed to notify the national organization.

I was going to bring it up. As much as it may suck for the PNM to have to attend a party that she doesn't like, it sucks a HELL of a lot more for the sorority to be buffaloed into asking back women whose presence at a party could turn off the PNMs they DO want. Especially when the Rho Chis (and people on here) keep saying things like "look around at the other rushees! Those will be your pledge sisters!" I'm glad no one ever said that to me or I might have made really horrendous decisions.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I was going to bring it up. As much as it may suck for the PNM to have to attend a party that she doesn't like, it sucks a HELL of a lot more for the sorority to be buffaloed into asking back women whose presence at a party could turn off the PNMs they DO want. Especially when the Rho Chis (and people on here) keep saying things like "look around at the other rushees! Those will be your pledge sisters!" I'm glad no one ever said that to me or I might have made really horrendous decisions.

Oh, sure, but I've also seen collegians decide that Patti PNM is their OMGFAVORITE in round 1, and then when Patti doesn't show up in round 2, they find someone else to rush crush on. There is nothing wrong with Patti, she just didn't shine as much in the first 15-minute meeting.

I think it's pretty analogous to PNM's choosing chapters. If there's a struggling chapter that's like half the size, or unhoused when all the others have gorgeous mansions, or something like that, it's one thing to sorta mentally write it off. It's another thing when virtually all the chapters are close to the same size, over 100 women each, and the main differences between them are the tent talk.

(Of course, my experiences are with a much larger recruitment than yours...I'm talking about first impressions when there are tons of PNM's that nobody really knows)

[groovypq]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I was going to bring it up. As much as it may suck for the PNM to have to attend a party that she doesn't like, it sucks a HELL of a lot more for the sorority to be buffaloed into asking back women whose presence at a party could turn off the PNMs they DO want. Especially when the Rho Chis (and people on here) keep saying things like "look around at the other rushees! Those will be your pledge sisters!" I'm glad no one ever said that to me or I might have made really horrendous decisions.

THIS. While I appreciate that RFM can benefit my chapter, we've also been told by our former GL advisor (and allegedly the RFM specialist as well), "You can invite back X number of women and you'd better invite X, not X minus 1." And it doesn't help a chapter shed the "they take anyone" image when that PNM no one else wanted ends up there.