Mystery New Members on Bid Day

[Splash]

None of that matters if the girl is welcomed graciously and no one reveals anything about what happened. Also, I think the person responsible should be penalized.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Splash

None of that matters if the girl is welcomed graciously and no one reveals anything about what happened.

Yes, it does matter a great deal, IF she did not meet the requirements laid out by the chapter and national organization to receive a bid, and IF as DBB said, this prevented a woman from getting a bid somewhere else where she DID meet the requirements. How many MS sessions have you taken part in exactly?

Originally Posted by Splash

Also, I think the person responsible should be penalized.

That's exactly what I said. They should have to explain to the girl why her bid is being rescinded. They should also have to explain to the chapter/Panhel why they thought they could pull this isht.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yes, it does matter a great deal, IF she did not meet the requirements laid out by the chapter and national organization to receive a bid, and IF as DBB said, this prevented a woman from getting a bid somewhere else where she DID meet the requirements. How many MS sessions have you taken part in exactly?



That's exactly what I said. They should have to explain to the girl why her bid is being rescinded. They should also have to explain to the chapter/Panhel why they thought they could pull this isht.

Can you rescind a bid? I did not even know that was allowed.

[Splash]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yes, it does matter a great deal, IF she did not meet the requirements laid out by the chapter and national organization to receive a bid, and IF as DBB said, this prevented a woman from getting a bid somewhere else where she DID meet the requirements. How many MS sessions have you taken part in exactly?

Which is why I specified initially that this girl is one of the blandly inoffensive and not someone the chapter blatantly does not want. 4 MS sessions, and yourself?

That's exactly what I said. They should have to explain to the girl why her bid is being rescinded. They should also have to explain to the chapter/Panhel why they thought they could pull this isht.

Well I don't know what I think the punishment should be. But your first suggestion punishes the girl far more than anyone else.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Can you rescind a bid? I did not even know that was allowed.

I guess that was the wrong wording. If the sorority never voted her in, and if she was put on the bid list by nefarious means, then she never technically had a bid to begin with. She needs to be informed of that.

Originally Posted by Splash

Which is why I specified initially that this girl is one of the blandly inoffensive and not someone the chapter blatantly does not want. 4 MS sessions, and yourself?

Twice that and then some...but then again, I guess you do have 1 for each of your user names.

As I said, it's hard to say how "ok" this is without getting too technical and nosy. But I still say, no matter how "inoffensive" she was...if she didn't meet requirements, she shouldn't be given a bid.

[Splash]

Just 1 user name and 4 recruitments during my collegiate experience.

And I agree, but just because a girl has been cut does not mean she doesn't meet the requirements of the sorority. At all.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Splash

Just 1 user name and 4 recruitments during my collegiate experience.

And I agree, but just because a girl has been cut does not mean she doesn't meet the requirements of the sorority. At all.

Once again, you're not understanding what I'm saying AT ALL. I don't mean whether she is "fit" for membership, or if she embodies the creed or whatever. I am talking about HOW. PEOPLE. VOTED.

Originally Posted by Titchou

It depends on how strict the policies are. And that's where we're getting into MS rules of individual groups. Suppose the group does final votes earlier than others...but then they have to release some they voted "yes" on due to numbers allowed to invite. So Susie gets released even though they voted to pledge her. Then, the numbers game catches up with the chapter and they have an open slot and Susie, voila!, is still available at bid matching. Can the adviser put her on the list? I would say yes...and then they wind up with someone who wasn't at pref showing up on Bid Day. It can happen. And has...

Yes. This.

[SWTXBelle]

Treading carefully - especially with RFM, it would be possible for a chapter to vote for a woman who was not invited back because of numbers.

Back in the day, it was possible for chapters to offer snap bids to women who had not accepted a pref invitation but who the chapter wanted. In that case, although the members might have been a bit surprised because they were not at pref, the chapter DID want them and HAD voted for them. (Like today's flex lists).

Unless you have worked as an alumnae with a chapter during recruitment you probably don't fully understand how the process works - but any alumna who abuses her position to manipulate membership selection should be immediately removed from her position, imho.

[Splash]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Once again, you're not understanding what I'm saying AT ALL. I don't mean whether she is "fit" for membership, or if she embodies the creed or whatever. I am talking about HOW. PEOPLE. VOTED.

I understand you completely. Her getting a bid IS a mistake. I know that. I understand the chapter did not vote to extend her a bid. I get that. You said she shouldn't get a bid because she didn't fit the requirements, not because she wasn't voted upon. I agree with the first part, and not the second part in regards to this situation.