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Originally Posted by SassyBlonde
Barbie's Rush,
What's with the negative attitude? I am looking for a realistic honest response. I do not expect to be welcomed being a senior--obviously, that's why I am sincerely requesting advice! I feel like you see it as a big joke or pity me so I get a bid with your comment "Now I'm just waiting for the tale of your entire family being wiped out in a fiery accident and how your recovery from bubonic plague delayed your sorority dreams." There was no fiery accident obviously, but if you want to more of my personal problems that delayed feel free to ask. I just ask that you take it seriously and realize that I am seeking advice, not ridicule. I realize you could be a lot more harsh if you want to be, but I feel as if something has came across the wrong way.
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It's not negative. It's realistic. I don't blow rainbows up every pony's ass. There's another site for that.
Everyone has given you the answer you were supposedly seeking. Yet you keep coming back with more "but...even if...but this happened previously...everyone says I should..." tales of woe that you think make you a special snowflake who we will immediately recognize as being the exception to the rule. We see people like you come here all the time, changing, editing and adding. Your answer is going to be the same. It gets tiresome.
I'm going to lay it out for you:
1) You are a senior with a limited "shelf life."
2) You already went through formal recruitment as a senior. EVERY sorority quickly dropped you except "Struggling Sigma." We don't know how that would have turned out since you weren't willing to give them the same chance they may have been willing to take on you.
3) Now "Struggling Sigma" doesn't look so bad. Because you'll take a bid from anyone now.
4) Nothing has changed for you since your last recruitment except for the fact that you're (hopefully) one semester closer to graduating.
5) Your chances are slimmer than they were during formal as even fewer new members are taken during informal/COB.
6) Sometimes members IRL say kind things "OMG you should totally rush again!," "It was only because we want freshmen during spring!" etc. only because they're trying not to hurt you or don't know what else to say. (Or think "Struggling Sigma" might actually offer you bid but their sorority certainly won't.)
7) Honestly, a lot of the reasons for wanting to join that you mentioned here sound a little creepy. I'm hoping it's just the way you're coming off online, but if you were coming off as all momsie in person you might seem like you don't fit in.
By all means, do go through whatever type of recruitment that's offered in the fall. You definitely won't get a bid anywhere if you don't try it again. (And don't be surprised if "Struggling Sigma" remembers you, and not for the right reasons. You should know that you may have burned that bridge.) But you also need to be honest with yourself. If being rejected again is going to kill your soul, you're probably better off looking into another club or revitalizing your non-collegiate sorority.
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