Rushing as a SENIOR in the Fall, informal recruitment. Advice?

[SassyBlonde]

No, not that controlling. I just felt the need to spend as much time as I could with him before he was gone for 7 months. I would not do this again, military changes things.

How were the older girls you knew 180 degrees from my way of thinking? I also think that because I will be grad student or starting a new major would be beneficial by having an alum still there to any organization.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by SassyBlonde

No, not that controlling. I just felt the need to spend as much time as I could with him before he was gone for 7 months. I would not do this again, military changes things.

How were the older girls you knew 180 degrees from my way of thinking? I also think that because I will be grad student or starting a new major would be beneficial by having an alum still there to any organization.

Most organizations do not allow alumnae to be advisers for a few years after they graduate. Your too close to the chapter members and may not be able to make decisions that effect them without being swayed by your friendships. Secondly, as an alum, most organizations generally do not allow alums to "party" with the collegians so going to grad school wouldn't give you extra time with the chapter unless you join a chapter that allows women to remain active members while in grad school (which are few and far between.)

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by SassyBlonde

How were the older girls you knew 180 degrees from my way of thinking?

There is abundant information available regarding the (cognitive) developmental differences between a 17-18 year old freshman and a 21-22 year old senior. Light years of difference in terms of interests, maturity, perspective. Huge differences. That's one thing for you to consider.

Again, good luck; go through recruitment with a completely open mind and prepare yourself for whatever outcome there is.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by SassyBlonde

No, not that controlling. I just felt the need to spend as much time as I could with him before he was gone for 7 months. I would not do this again, military changes things.

How were the older girls you knew 180 degrees from my way of thinking? I also think that because I will be grad student or starting a new major would be beneficial by having an alum still there to any organization.

Right. So those seven months explain why you didn't decide to rush until your senior year.

You'll be a second semester senior when you're rushing again. The sororities already let you know what their verdict was on first semester seniors when you rushed last semester. No one is going to be looking at you and thinking "Yay! She'll be an active alumna soon! Let's give her a bid!"

Maybe you should find a club you can join until you eventually graduate.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

There is abundant information available regarding the (cognitive) developmental differences between a 17-18 year old freshman and a 21-22 year old senior. Light years of difference in terms of interests, maturity, perspective. Huge differences. That's one thing for you to consider.

That's not what I was talking about at all. I was talking about juniors and seniors I knew who joined as opposed to the OP, not as opposed to freshmen.

Originally Posted by SassyBlonde

How were the older girls you knew 180 degrees from my way of thinking?

Originally Posted by SassyBlonde

I am looking for a lot of girls to befriend. I want to help more girls after they have had a hard day, help them realize how special they are, and as an upperclassmen possibly help them with anything I might be able to, whether it be academics or emotional, as well as participate in community service together.

You sound more like a mom than a sister. The older (junior and senior) girls I knew who pledged were completely devoid of mom-like qualities - in other words, they were on the same level as the rest of the girls in the chapter.

Yes, it is fulfilling to feel like you're helping someone that way, but you can't come in as a pledge and start to do it. If that's what you're looking for, then again, I recommend that you try to grow the organization you already belong to.

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Maybe you should find a club you can join until you eventually graduate.

She's already a member of a non-collegiate sorority.