Is it all about looks?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I just want to say that it goes both ways. I came from a "weak recruiting chapter", and you know what? PNM's didn't want to come back to my chapter because we had fat women. I don't understand this, myself, having chosen my chapter, but it seems that some people think fat women don't make good friends or that cuter girls are automatically nicer people.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I just want to say that it goes both ways. I came from a "weak recruiting chapter", and you know what? PNM's didn't want to come back to my chapter because we had fat women. I don't understand this, myself, having chosen my chapter, but it seems that some people think fat women don't make good friends or that cuter girls are automatically nicer people.

I imagine the people who would reject a chapter based on image are probably more interested in image than they are in friendships with nice people.

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I just want to say that it goes both ways. I came from a "weak recruiting chapter", and you know what? PNM's didn't want to come back to my chapter because we had fat women. I don't understand this, myself, having chosen my chapter, but it seems that some people think fat women don't make good friends or that cuter girls are automatically nicer people.

You are only talking chapter level. What happens when it hits on an organization level?

It is an ugly "It works both ways" situation. That's why at the end of the day you have to know you and how you will fit in.

Believe me when you get to the other side, those "stereotypes" get old quick and you will find yourself hating your own chapter/organization.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

You are only talking chapter level. What happens when it hits on an organization level?

It is an ugly "It works both ways" situation. That's why at the end of the day you have to know you and how you will fit in.

Believe me when you get to the other side, those "stereotypes" get old quick and you will find yourself hating your own chapter/organization.

I think there are too many groups for that to ever happen as far as the NPC is concerned.

[AGDee]

I would not join any club that would have someone like me as a member.

Groucho Marx

But seriously folks. It is not EVER only about looks, but whether you present yourself well is important, not just in joining a sorority but in obtaining a job, meeting new people, networking, etc. There are a lot of average looking people who, when they put their best foot forward, look polished and put together.