Is it all about looks?

I went through a few other websites where people talked about either my school's sororities or just sororities in general. It seems that there are fat sororities, hot sororities, butch sororities, and everything in between. I also see that every one has something bad to say about every single sorority. I hate that in my quest to find the perfect sisterhood for me, I keep running into negative comments. I am a bigger girl and I know this. I just know that I am focused on whether or not my grades, high school activities, community service, and overall impression is good enough, and now I have to worry about being too fat, or not tan enough to be greek? I see the good in the greek life but I also see the bad.

Anyone have any advice? Personal experiences with this? I know people say recruitment isn't about physical appearance, but more rather than how you present yourself with dressing nicely and conducting a lady-like manner but after reading comments, I assume otherwise.

[agzg]

Oh, my. Get your stuff together that you need for recruitment and go through recruitment with an open mind.

Also, stop going to those sites. They're fucking awful.

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by mtsugreekchic

I went through a few other websites where people talked about either my school's sororities or just sororities in general. It seems that there are fat sororities, hot sororities, butch sororities, and everything in between. I also see that every one has something bad to say about every single sorority. I hate that in my quest to find the perfect sisterhood for me, I keep running into negative comments. I am a bigger girl and I know this. I just know that I am focused on whether or not my grades, high school activities, community service, and overall impression is good enough, and now I have to worry about being too fat, or not tan enough to be greek? I see the good in the greek life but I also see the bad.

Anyone have any advice? Personal experiences with this? I know people say recruitment isn't about physical appearance, but more rather than how you present yourself with dressing nicely and conducting a lady-like manner but after reading comments, I assume otherwise.

If you are not yet greek, but are considering going through recruitment... you will never know until you try. Change the attitude and "assumptions", or else it will be noticed, and you'll shoot yourself in the foot. Put your best self forward, in all ways. That's all you can do.

[preciousjeni]

Have you done any reading of the many recruitment-related threads here?

Wow. I don't want to seem insecure. I guess I came off that way. All I wanted was to get some of the stereotypes I've heard about, cleared up. I'm very open minded and very confident.

[agzg]

Stereotypes = bad news bears, amiga. Stay away from them.

[KSUViolet06]

Nope. You could be a perfect 10 in the looks dept. but it really won't matter much if you are, say, a raging BITCH with a bad attitude.

Oh yeah, and I suggest you do some reading:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ght=appearance

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ght=appearance

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Nope. You could be a perfect 10 in the looks dept. but it really won't matter much if you are, say, a raging BITCH with a bad attitude.

Oh yeah, and I suggest you do some reading:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ght=appearance

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ght=appearance

I have read, there's just so many threads to go through. I will look through those. Thank you

[Regina.George]

What's with your user name if you aren't even Greek? That's pretty presumptuous.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by Regina.George

What's with your user name if you aren't even Greek? That's pretty presumptuous.

Meh, much better than having a particular group in it.

Originally Posted by Regina.George

What's with your user name if you aren't even Greek? That's pretty presumptuous.

I'm not being presumptuous. I want to be greek, eventually. I am interested in the greek life and I know that if I work hard enough, I will get into a sorority.

I hate that I came here to get advice and learn about sororities and recruitment and god forbid, I ask a question and I get anything but answers.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by mtsugreekchic

I hate that I came here to get advice and learn about sororities and recruitment and god forbid, I ask a question and I get anything but answers.

Seriously, wtf.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by mtsugreekchic

I hate that I came here to get advice and learn about sororities and recruitment and god forbid, I ask a question and I get anything but answers.

OMG. Really?

You got advice.

I posted very helpful advice, as did several others. Your question was answered.

What more do you want?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

What more do you want?

Rainbows and sunshine and promises that, despite what she obviously already knows, she'll get her first choice sorority and will be insta-best friends with all her new sisters, and not one of them will judge her by her weight.

Listen, OP, being fat sucks - I know, I've been there. BUT, you can choose to let it stop you from going through recruitment or you can just do it and see how it all shakes out. Also, yeah, you might end up in the stereotyped fat house. If you're looking for sisterhood, that's where you may find it. If you're looking to get into the Hot Barbie House because you think that by sporting HBH letters you'll automatically become a Hot Barbie, you're going to be sorely disappointed regardless of your rush outcome.