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Originally Posted by tiana01
Your right! That's why I’m going to give it another year with me living in. Also your right about me transferring to the other school I could end up in the same situation I am in now. While I did not think transferring would mean insta-friends. My main reasons for transferring was to actual be in-state (fincial) and be able to go home for breaks (super homesick). I Really do appreciate your being honest with me. Thank you KSUViolet!!
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I like that you want to give things another year, Tiana; it shows that you understand things can change depending on circumstances. You may also find that you're closer to the newer members who are younger than you are, which may help things out even more. On the other hand, things could stay about the same for you as they are now, or even get worse for you (and I certainly hope they don't).
When I was a collegian, I told my mother--a very active sorority sister of mine, as it happens--that I was having thoughts about relinquishing my membership because I didn't totally feel like I fit in. Oh, I did when I joined--I adored the seniors and juniors, especially. But once they graduated, I didn't have the close relationships a lot of the other girls did, and many of them (coincidentally some who served on Exec Board a time or two) seemed to dismiss everything I ever said or did. But my mom, ever the active alumna, told me that her best years in Phi Mu have been as an alumna, and so I should stick it out for my last two years. I did, and I'm extremely glad that I made that choice.
One last thing: remember that, if/when you transfer, you'll most likely have to petition the chapter of your sorority at your new school to be accepted into their chapter. From the sound of it, you may already have connections with the girls there, but it's never guaranteed that the entire chapter will want you to join them. It's just one more thing to think about.
Best of luck to you!
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