Is hazing the best way?

[djpsk21]

Well, thank you all for your comments. I have received the obvious answers of check with your nationals and talk to your members, which is what I am doing. I guess I was just foolishly hoping that others may be excited to share success stories from their pledgeship or their dealings with ending hazing...

"What works for some may not work for others" is a very true statement...so I am trying to learn what works for others to help build an ideal program, taking bits and pieces from success stories to find something that DOES work for this group.

In regards to change...there really isn't a time line as to when change can happen...Innovation must be at the forefront of peoples minds. It is not like if the change doesn't occur by a certain a date, one should just 'give up'. Considering a large portion of the pledge class won't form til the Spring, this is truly the ideal time to start working changes.

I also don't see what the shocker is in regards to someone new coming and being given the task to change things...a fresh perspective is often what is needed and if anything, I think these men, my brothers, should be commended for taking that leap of faith and turning to someone who has not been tainted by the current way of thinking to help lead a culture change.

Finally, I must say that I am not trying to "control" what is being said but I will readily admit that yes, I was hoping to guide the conversation in a more focused direction. I don't see the harm in trying to bring the conversation back to the main focus.

So, I will ask one last time, if you have any good experiences involving pledging that did not involve hazing or know of any good "team building" exercises where people are brought together, please share them. We can only learn from each other. Let ME and MY BROTHERS decide what will and will not work for us. We are NOT trying to steal ideas, but rather create a "sounding board" or "Spring Board" for ideas so we can better develop the pledge process. As I mentioned earlier, with the brothers coming from a culture of hazing...they don't know what else to do...though they do agree they want to do something different.

Feel free to PM me if you do not feel comfortable sharing here. I am not trying to start a war, overstep by bounds or be rude. I honestly came here hoping to learn. Too many times, Greek organizations just turn to themselves for answers...this is an opportunity for true Greek Collaboration to help build a better Greek future for all.