HELP! Big/Little problems :(

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by SunDevilGreek

nor do I actually think she would ever get a new big.

Then there's no issue.

4. Finally, this isn't a possessive thing. My little is my best friend- if she takes another big, that's like breaking the bond that brought us together. I know some people aren't very close with their bigs, and maybe in some chapters the big/little relationship is for initiation mostly. Everyone in my chapter puts a huge emphasis on the big/little relationship, so that's why them moving in on her is so hurtful. BECAUSE IT'S A BIG DEAL.

Thanks so much for all your comments, I needed insight.

Your friendship won't cease to exist because of someone else taking her as a little. Would they forbid her to speak with you? Would they stop you two from seeing each other?

You can still maintain a great relationship without the titles.

[SunDevilGreek]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Then there's no issue.



Your friendship won't cease to exist because of someone else taking her as a little. Would they forbid her to speak with you? Would they stop you two from seeing each other?

You can still maintain a great relationship without the titles.

I never said our relationship would "cease to exist". This isn't about that. I'm upset AT THE OTHER GIRLS. The situation INVOLVES my little, but really doesn't have anything to do with her, if that makes sense.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by SunDevilGreek

I never said our relationship would "cease to exist". This isn't about that. I'm upset AT THE OTHER GIRLS. The situation INVOLVES my little, but really doesn't have anything to do with her, if that makes sense.

So your little won't take a new big, even though others are trying? Also, you and your little maintain a great relationship, even in your absence?

I don't see what the problem is. It sounds like you're mad that the other girls are trying, but if your little isn't responding to it, there's really no issue.

[33girl]

You need be straight with the other girls and say "I realize you love Little, but what you are doing is really hurting my feelings." It's not like you dropped off the earth.

I also agree with sbm that your little may not be as blameless in all this as she claims. It's an awesome thing to feel like people want you that much, even if it is in kind of an underhanded way, and she may be enabling it more than she realizes. She needs to grow a pair and say "I HAVE a big. Drop it. NOW."

Hope you get this all worked out, because it is a shitty situation that should never even have happened.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by 33girl

You need be straight with the other girls and say "I realize you love Little, but what you are doing is really hurting my feelings." It's not like you dropped off the earth.

I also agree with sbm that your little may not be as blameless in all this as she claims. It's an awesome thing to feel like people want you that much, even if it is in kind of an underhanded way, and she may be enabling it more than she realizes. She needs to grow a pair and say "I HAVE a big. Drop it. NOW."

Hope you get this all worked out, because it is a shitty situation that should never even have happened.

I completely agree. Sounds like a lot of drama is being stirred up here by your Little. The fact that all of you are upperclassmen should mean that you are past this kind of crap.