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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
Did you see how all of this was pointless? You both made the situation painful for no reason. You were mad because she got an adopted Big Sis....but you got a new Lil Sis. In the end, sisters are not trophies. They have needs and being completely militant about the Big-Lil relationship causes more pain and ruins more relationships. Yes, it's painful, but their are painful situations in all relationships. The important thing is to PRESERVE the friendship because 10 to 15 years later, wouldn't you rather be speaking to your Big or Lil sis than being able to tell this story?
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No one's being militant or looking at someone as a trophy. It's about being rejected - not rejected as part of a sorority, rejected as YOU - for reasons like transferring that are beyond your control.
If you wouldn't be deeply hurt by that, I don't know how else to explain it to you.
To say "oh well, she got a new big, you got a new little, everything's hunky dory" is kind of like saying "oh well, you divorced, he got a new wife, you got a new husband, why all the unnecessary pain?" Maybe that's a little much, but a relationship is a relationship.
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