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Not to "take sides" here, but I do see the value in a multitude of the questions and responses here. The way that I interpreted the OP's questions were that of a mom who took a call from a frustrated child and as a parent she is simply trying to wrap her head around the workings of Greek Life. If the OP was never Greek, she would have no idea whatsoever as to how matters of discipline or unrest are settled. As the mother of eight children and 4 of which are either in college or finished with college, it was all a work in progress for me and I certainly do not have the time or the energy to be a helicopter, much less an eight passenger one. I was Greek and understand that life is not always as pretty as the fabulous portraits painted during rush. The daughter is certainly in the learning curve of sisterhood;and probably, based on the mother coming here, completely at odds or at a loss with the process. So she turned to her mom for advice and the Mom of course, not knowing how to advise daughter, came here looking for support and understanding. My four oldest are all boys, some Greek, some not, but I do have a daughter whom I am extremely close who will be rushing next year. She uses me as a sounding board and as a major part of of her support system, I would want to be educated to the general workings of a situation before giving her any feedback. Why advise on something you know nothing about? If I told her to go her president and spill her guts, it could be the wrong advice not knowing the chain of command, etc. So I think the OP was looking for general information, not trying to "fix" the problem for her child. I think it is hard for some people on the outside looking in to realize that a parent can have an extremely close relationship (especially mothers & daughters) without the mother being a helicopter. It is typical for my daughter to just send a text that says "I love you..hope you having a good day" a few times a week...my older boys...I hear from most when, 1. They need money, 2. They need life changing advice or 3. A girl has pissed them off. So I understand the why the OP came her seeking to understand the process.
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