Sorority pledge misbehavior

[greekalum]

Butting in would be calling the chapter and demanding answers from the chapter president. Or adviser. Or HQ.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by greekalum

Butting in would be calling the chapter and demanding answers from the chapter president. Or adviser. Or HQ.

And creating a thread on GC about your daughter.

Butting in doesn't have to go so far as "helicoptering." Are people really pretending that they've never heard someone being told to "butt out" when they act a little too concerned or act too impacted by something? Sons and daughters tell their parents to butt out all the time when they get tired of the concern and the advice. That obviously hasn't happened in this instance but that's why there's now a thread and some of us are responding as we are.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Butting in doesn't have to go so far as "helicoptering." Are people really pretending that they've never heard someone being told to "butt out" when they act a little too concerned or act too impacted by something? Sons and daughters tell their parents to butt out all the time when they get tired of the concern and the advice. That obviously hasn't happened in this instance but that's why there's now a thread and some of us are responding as we are.

I totally agree with you on the concept of someone needing to "butt out." I just don't think this mom really butted in. I actually thought she was coming on here so she could avoid butting in because by asking for info in this format, she could find out what she needed to know without going to a chapter advisor, etc for answers.

I am, now, butting out of this thread.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

I totally agree with you on the concept of someone needing to "butt out." I just don't think this mom really butted in. I actually thought she was coming on here so she could avoid butting in because by asking for info in this format, she could find out what she needed to know without going to a chapter advisor, etc for answers.

So, she wanted to go beyond what her daughter has shared with her and go above her daughter to find out some info (or vent). LOL. I call that butting in.